Sexual Orientation And Akashic Records

One client, who identified himself as gay, asked, “Does our soul have anything to do with our sexual orientation?” It’s an interesting question.

I will first discuss this issue as Akashic Record Reading specialist. Then let me share my personal view about sexual orientation and how unreasonably GLBT individuals are treated even today.  (Photo Credit) 

Male and female energy in a soul

On the physical level, we are born with male or female genes, which show up as different hormonal levels and physical shapes.

On the soul level, we all have more or less of male and female energy. A soul may be predominantly male, predominantly female, or androgynous with about the same amount of male and female energy. This applies to both incarnated souls and spirit guides.

With incarnated souls (us!), the gender of the soul may or may not match the physical sex of the person. This, however, has nothing to do with the person’s sexual orientation.

A woman with a male soul may be happily married to a man and have several kids. With the extra male energy, however, she may enjoy working outside the home as an individual, rather than staying home and assuming the traditional role of a homemaker.

Likewise, a man with a female soul may be straight. If anything, the extra female energy may make him a gentle nurturing figure, and maybe a great dad.

Few incarnated souls have androgynous souls. Androgynous souls are highly advanced souls.

Past life gender and sexual orientation

Souls incarnate in various ways to see this world from different angles, so you are likely to have been incarnated as both man and woman. Again, this has nothing to do with your current sexuality or sexual orientation.

In the specific case of the client who asked the aforementioned question, he had a soulmate contract with a soul who is now incarnated as a man. When I told him about this, he immediately knew which of his past lovers I was talking about. (As I wrote in that linked article, soulmate contract is very harmful.)

However, this only sets him up to have one relationship with a man. One homosexual experience / relationship doesn’t make a person homosexual.

So, my conclusion as Akashic Record reader is that the soul has nothing to do with sexual orientation. I don’t even know if a soul recognize another soul by the gender — it recognize each other by the overall energy.

Homophobia in the 21st Century!?

I am totally pissed off to read the news in which words like “gay” is used derogatively. (HT: Hunter Nuttall) What is it that is bad about loving someone, whether the person is of the same sex or opposite sex? Tell me even one good reason.

I think homophobia is about the fear of our own sexuality. Because sexuality literally strips us “naked” to who we really are. Someone with tons of money and high social status? Who is this person without such decorations? Someone who has tons of knowledge and can say all the right things? Let’s see how this person acts when they are naked.

With men, I think there is an additional fear of not being needed by women. Most women are bi whether they are aware of it or not. For women, pleasure only takes to be touched the right way — penis is not necessary but only optional. This is true even in heterosexual sex — it’s so much easier for a woman to have orgasm in outercourse than in intercourse. (If you haven’t figured this out, well — experiment a bit for a pleasant surprise ) 

By contrast, most men seem to be either straight or gay, not bi. So straight men have difficulty understanding gay men. And straight men, needing women for their satisfaction, wonder: What happens if many women figure out they are bi and men’s treasured tools are only optional? Then they have to attract women by their personality. Ah, how scary. Many people (both men and women) are still not aware of their innate charm and power.

Movies to think about love and sexual identity

I’ve always loved watching “gay” movies because they ask critical questions about love. For example, have you watched these?

The Birdcage
Toward the end of the movie, the “wife” and drag queen (Nathan Lane) asks the critical question to the very old-fashioned senator, father of his son’s fiance. I can’t find the exact quote, but it was something in the line of, “You liked me. You liked who I am. You liked what I had to say about politics, you liked dancing with me . . . What is the difference (whether I am a man or a woman)?”

Brokeback Mountain
Are people born to be gay or are some people recruited? And again, what is so wrong about being gay? The movie shows breath-taking scenery, cute and sensitive guys, and ugly women who do cliched “sexy” things like wearing shorts and high heels. So heterosexual sluttery is fine but not homosexuality? Come on.

The Wedding Banquet
Directed by the same director Ang Lee, who also directed Brokeback Mountain. This is a cute comedy in which traditional Asian values meet American lifestyle, leading to something productive. I really like the ending, which is a kind of polyamory of two gay men and the mother of one of the guy’s baby.

Transamerica
This movie is about MTF (male to female) transgender. A week before her final surgery, Felicity Huffman learns she fathered a son. She spends the week with him traveling across America (I don’t know why they didn’t just fly) without telling him about their biological relationship.

The movie asks the same critical question: Isn’t it who you are that matters, not what gender you are? But then, gender also matters — that is why there are people who go through the transgender procedure. Aaaaagh . . . we are not quite so simple. . .

Victor Victoria
Not really a “gay” movie because Julie Andrews is only pretending to be a man. The guy who falls for “Victor” still has to overcome his inner resistance to go for a man. Great music and sense of humor ^_^

Recently, I noticed I never watched lesbian or bi movie. Isn’t this strange? The above movies were blockbusters and I watched them not because they are gay movies but because they are good movies. And what happened to the female equivalent?

I researched in NetFlix and watched the following:

If These Walls Could Talk 2
This is an omnibus of three stories. The first story is about an elderly lesbian couple who have been together for probably 50 years or so. One has an accident. Her companion (Vanessa Redgrave) can’t see her at the hospital’s intensive care because she is not a family member. She stays in the waiting room all night in case anything happens to the patient. Next morning, she finds her companion passed away during the night. No one let her know. She can’t even say the last good bye to her companion, who is practically her spouse.

Then the relatives of the deceased come and tell her she needs to move out of the house they lived together. Even though both paid toward the mortgage, the title is under her companion’s name, and the Vanessa Redgrave’s role has no legal right to stay there. This is not what her companion wanted — they agreed that, if anything happens to one of them, the other can stay in their home. But in the end, because they were not legally married, the one who just lost her love of life also loses her house.

I don’t think you need to be pro-gay to see the wrong of this scenario. You only need to be pro-love.

Kissing Jessica Stein
I like the humorous setting — a straight girl responding to a woman’s personal ad out of curiosity, who also never had lesbian relationships. I don’t like the hypocrisy of the leading character. Her girlfriend leaves her because she doesn’t want sex so much. This is understandable — sex is important for this woman and she wanted to be desired. The leading character then turns around to a man and says, “She dumped me . . . I guess she wanted someone more gay.” (Quote may not be exact — I’m writing from my memory.)

Hmm, I guess gay men have a lot more to say than lesbian women.

What do you think about our sexuality? In the spiritual context? Please share in the comment.  Thank you.

How Not To Find Your Soulmate

I know I’m crashing many people’s dreams.  Please don’t stone me.  Although it may be disappointing, knowing the truth of soulmates can free you up in your search for romantic relationship.  (And yes, I know Valentine’s Day is coming up . . .) (Photo by smudie)

You don’t want to seek your soulmate

You know the whole hype the mass media has made about soulmates.  There is one soul that is meant for you, and you are supposed to marry him or her.  You and him or her have promised to do so at the deep soul level many lifetimes ago.  They are also called twin flames.

As you know, I read people’s soul records (Akashic Records) professionally. So, yes, I know about the soulmate contracts.  I come across them occasionally.  When I do, my heart starts sinking with compassion.  And I expect an emotionally-charged phone session.  Because the soulmate contracts, at this time of our spiritual evolution, are outdated and those who are still seeking their soulmates are bound to be disappointed.

It started off on a positive note.  The two souls had such a great relationship that they decided to do it all over again when they’d come back in another lifetime.  And they did.  And the relationship was again good.    And then they came back to this physical world again and did it all over again.  And . . .

At some point, it got old.  When they first meet in the physical world, there is already a sense that they know each other somehow.  In the past, this promoted to form a relationship quickly and kept it secure.  There were plenty of other challenges in life and having a prescribed relationship with someone they already knew on the soul level worked as a safety net.

However, we don’t need this kind of restriction any longer and a lot of souls have noticed it.  They intuitively know they can form intimate relationship with someone new for totally new experiences.  So they have voluntarily cleared the soulmate contract on their own to free themselves.

. . . so long, honey, it’s been good but I’m ready for a new adventure now . . .

What happens when one soul sticks to their soulmate contract

The problem is there are still souls who are literally keeping their side of the soulmate contracts.  They seek and indeed find their soulmates.  They recognize their soulmates as such and woo.  Their soulmates, however, are not interested.  They may feel the familiarity and like their former soulmates, but they are not interested in having yet another intimate relationship with them.

So they keep a distance, messaging “Let’s just be friends.”  The one that’s still keeping the soulmate contract, however, wouldn’t listen and chase their mate.  Sad, unproductive courtship happens.

For the one that’s keeping soulmate contract, this is dissatisfying and frustrating.  For the one that has cleared the soulmate contract, this is very disturbing and confusing.  This person does not dislike their former soulmate – the former soulmate is like an old family member.  Just not romantic.

Sometimes they are already married.  One spouse has noticed the relationship is outdated – it’s not like they don’t love their partners any longer, but they crave freedom and new opportunities.  If they can dissolve the issue somehow, by separation / divorce or by somehow opening up the marriage (whether this involves sex with other people or not), that’s good.  If not, the soul that has cleared the soulmate contract may grow increasingly frustrated to the point that they start resenting their partners.

Soulmates vs soul friends

Soulmates are not the only souls we know from our past lives.  There are other familiar souls that I like to call “soul friends”.  Dr Michael Newton calls them “soul cluster groups” in Journey of Souls.  These souls know each other, may have some agreements, but not a binding contracts like soulmate contracts.  They incarnate at the same time repeatedly to share lifetimes.

You may know your soul friends.  The souls that walk into your life seemingly accidentally but ever so meaningfully.  You just feel so relaxed talking with them, even after a long time of no contact.

For example, in Dr Brian Weiss’ Many Lives, Many Masters, his patient Catherine’s soul friends include the doctor who referred her to Dr Weiss and Dr Weiss himself.

You may or may not want to marry your soul friend.  Sometimes, friends are best kept as friends.

The new meaning of romantic relationship

I think some of us are seeking fundamentally different things in romantic relationships these days.  In the past, relationship was a preparation or trial of becoming and raising a family.  It was for survival.  It was also about learning – learning from each other and through relationship.

Now, for more and more souls, romantic relationship is simply about experiencing love in this physical world.    It’s not about survival – on the contrary, it’s about free expression of love.  Romantic relationship is just that – it really doesn’t matter if it leads to marriage and family, and it doesn’t even have to be about learning.  Just experience what love is like in this physical form.  Period.

I guess most of us are still caught up in the old survival-oriented relationship model that has been the norm in society for thousands of years.  It’s scary to jump to the new type of relationship model based on unconditional love and freedom.  So you may be  tempted to argue that free love is possible and has always existed in the old survival-oriented relationships.  But if so, why do people become so possessive of their partners?

I’m not saying one is better than the other.  I’m saying many souls are waking up and opening to new possibilities.

Like other things I discuss on this blog, don’t just take my word.  If you want to form an exclusive relationship, my blessings go to you.  I know the sense of security feels good, and if your partner is happy about it, too, that is wonderful.  Just don’t bind him or her with mandatory contracts like soulmate contracts

Do you still want to find your soulmate?  Which part of the media story on soulmates ticks you?