One client, who identified himself as gay, asked, “Does our soul have anything to do with our sexual orientation?” It’s an interesting question.
I will first discuss this issue as Akashic Record Reading specialist. Then let me share my personal view about sexual orientation and how unreasonably GLBT individuals are treated even today. (Photo Credit)
Male and female energy in a soul
On the physical level, we are born with male or female genes, which show up as different hormonal levels and physical shapes.
On the soul level, we all have more or less of male and female energy. A soul may be predominantly male, predominantly female, or androgynous with about the same amount of male and female energy. This applies to both incarnated souls and spirit guides.
With incarnated souls (us!), the gender of the soul may or may not match the physical sex of the person. This, however, has nothing to do with the person’s sexual orientation.
A woman with a male soul may be happily married to a man and have several kids. With the extra male energy, however, she may enjoy working outside the home as an individual, rather than staying home and assuming the traditional role of a homemaker.
Likewise, a man with a female soul may be straight. If anything, the extra female energy may make him a gentle nurturing figure, and maybe a great dad.
Few incarnated souls have androgynous souls. Androgynous souls are highly advanced souls.
Past life gender and sexual orientation
Souls incarnate in various ways to see this world from different angles, so you are likely to have been incarnated as both man and woman. Again, this has nothing to do with your current sexuality or sexual orientation.
In the specific case of the client who asked the aforementioned question, he had a soulmate contract with a soul who is now incarnated as a man. When I told him about this, he immediately knew which of his past lovers I was talking about. (As I wrote in that linked article, soulmate contract is very harmful.)
However, this only sets him up to have one relationship with a man. One homosexual experience / relationship doesn’t make a person homosexual.
So, my conclusion as Akashic Record reader is that the soul has nothing to do with sexual orientation. I don’t even know if a soul recognize another soul by the gender — it recognize each other by the overall energy.
Homophobia in the 21st Century!?
I am totally pissed off to read the news in which words like “gay” is used derogatively. (HT: Hunter Nuttall) What is it that is bad about loving someone, whether the person is of the same sex or opposite sex? Tell me even one good reason.
I think homophobia is about the fear of our own sexuality. Because sexuality literally strips us “naked” to who we really are. Someone with tons of money and high social status? Who is this person without such decorations? Someone who has tons of knowledge and can say all the right things? Let’s see how this person acts when they are naked.
With men, I think there is an additional fear of not being needed by women. Most women are bi whether they are aware of it or not. For women, pleasure only takes to be touched the right way — penis is not necessary but only optional. This is true even in heterosexual sex — it’s so much easier for a woman to have orgasm in outercourse than in intercourse. (If you haven’t figured this out, well — experiment a bit for a pleasant surprise )
By contrast, most men seem to be either straight or gay, not bi. So straight men have difficulty understanding gay men. And straight men, needing women for their satisfaction, wonder: What happens if many women figure out they are bi and men’s treasured tools are only optional? Then they have to attract women by their personality. Ah, how scary. Many people (both men and women) are still not aware of their innate charm and power.
Movies to think about love and sexual identity
I’ve always loved watching “gay” movies because they ask critical questions about love. For example, have you watched these?
Toward the end of the movie, the “wife” and drag queen (Nathan Lane) asks the critical question to the very old-fashioned senator, father of his son’s fiance. I can’t find the exact quote, but it was something in the line of, “You liked me. You liked who I am. You liked what I had to say about politics, you liked dancing with me . . . What is the difference (whether I am a man or a woman)?”
Are people born to be gay or are some people recruited? And again, what is so wrong about being gay? The movie shows breath-taking scenery, cute and sensitive guys, and ugly women who do cliched “sexy” things like wearing shorts and high heels. So heterosexual sluttery is fine but not homosexuality? Come on.
The Wedding Banquet
Directed by the same director Ang Lee, who also directed Brokeback Mountain. This is a cute comedy in which traditional Asian values meet American lifestyle, leading to something productive. I really like the ending, which is a kind of polyamory of two gay men and the mother of one of the guy’s baby.
This movie is about MTF (male to female) transgender. A week before her final surgery, Felicity Huffman learns she fathered a son. She spends the week with him traveling across America (I don’t know why they didn’t just fly) without telling him about their biological relationship.
The movie asks the same critical question: Isn’t it who you are that matters, not what gender you are? But then, gender also matters — that is why there are people who go through the transgender procedure. Aaaaagh . . . we are not quite so simple. . .
Not really a “gay” movie because Julie Andrews is only pretending to be a man. The guy who falls for “Victor” still has to overcome his inner resistance to go for a man. Great music and sense of humor ^_^
Recently, I noticed I never watched lesbian or bi movie. Isn’t this strange? The above movies were blockbusters and I watched them not because they are gay movies but because they are good movies. And what happened to the female equivalent?
I researched in NetFlix and watched the following:
If These Walls Could Talk 2
This is an omnibus of three stories. The first story is about an elderly lesbian couple who have been together for probably 50 years or so. One has an accident. Her companion (Vanessa Redgrave) can’t see her at the hospital’s intensive care because she is not a family member. She stays in the waiting room all night in case anything happens to the patient. Next morning, she finds her companion passed away during the night. No one let her know. She can’t even say the last good bye to her companion, who is practically her spouse.
Then the relatives of the deceased come and tell her she needs to move out of the house they lived together. Even though both paid toward the mortgage, the title is under her companion’s name, and the Vanessa Redgrave’s role has no legal right to stay there. This is not what her companion wanted — they agreed that, if anything happens to one of them, the other can stay in their home. But in the end, because they were not legally married, the one who just lost her love of life also loses her house.
I don’t think you need to be pro-gay to see the wrong of this scenario. You only need to be pro-love.
Kissing Jessica Stein
I like the humorous setting — a straight girl responding to a woman’s personal ad out of curiosity, who also never had lesbian relationships. I don’t like the hypocrisy of the leading character. Her girlfriend leaves her because she doesn’t want sex so much. This is understandable — sex is important for this woman and she wanted to be desired. The leading character then turns around to a man and says, “She dumped me . . . I guess she wanted someone more gay.” (Quote may not be exact — I’m writing from my memory.)
Hmm, I guess gay men have a lot more to say than lesbian women.
What do you think about our sexuality? In the spiritual context? Please share in the comment. Thank you.