Creating The New World, Part 1 Love

Do you create your life freely or do you live within the limits of the existing system? Do you realize you have the power to change the system, and eventually the whole world, when you make a change that is not limited by the existing system?

I want to dream big and write about how we can create the New World based on the foundation of love, light, truth, abundance and power. Because big dreams inspire us and provide us the essential direction of our lives. How can we make the decision of which road to take when we don’t know the big picture and the overall direction?

Plus Ascension provides us the rare opportunity to change. We live in a special time when significant change is possible.

What love is not 

First we need to know what love is. And few words have been abused as badly as the word love.

1. You don’t know what love is if you think unconditional love is special.
If you think there is unconditional love, which is a better kind than other kinds of love, let me ask you: What is love that is not unconditional? What is conditional love?

• I love you if you (lose 10 lb, quit complaining, help me more around the house, etc.)
• If you love me, you would (stop drinking, work harder, etc.)

These are just forms of manipulation, in the name of love. I know most of us have been conditioned with this from childhood, but let’s make it clear this has nothing to do with love.

2. You don’t know what love is if you sacrifice yourself in the name of love.
Love starts with self love. There is just no way to love others while ignoring your own worthiness or letting yourself abused. And if you think self love conflicts with love for others, look around carefully. Love gets stronger with more love. Conflict is an illusion made from the fear of scarcity.

3. You don’t know what love is if you think love is about holding hands and not saying anything uncomfortable.
Uncomfortable to whom? To that person or yourself? You may say you don’t say certain things because you care about that person’s feelings. Well, I care about people’s feelings, too, but I also know that, when someone think in this line, they are usually hiding the truth, and the truth is they don’t say it because it makes themselves uncomfortable.

We sure don’t need to offend people’s feelings unnecessarily. But hiding the truth under the name of love is very unloving.

Loving darkworkers

The last point leads to the issue of darkworkers. It sounds nicer to say that there is no such thing like darkworkers and we are all good loving souls, hug one another, and ignore the energy sucking dramas some of us are acting out. But is it true? And is it helpful even to the darkworkers themselves?

It’s helpful for darkworkers to continue their way, yes. If they are to come back to Light, however, they get the best chance when people around them set up a clear boundary so that the darkworkers cannot get any energy from them. Tough love, sure, but what is the point of covering up their acts?

This is not about fixing them. Let them be who they are but put your self-love in place. Awareness of what is really going on, factually and energetically, is the start of love.

Then what is love?

My definition is love is the awareness that we are valuable for our individual uniqueness and yet we are all part of the whole. I love you for who you are. No need to change unless you yourself wish to change. And together we make a union that is more than the sum.

We are like parts of one body. The kidney is valuable for its unique function, and so is the heart. The heart doesn’t put down the kidney because it deals with urine. Our respective uniqueness is our strength — we don’t need kidney to become more like the heart.

Sometimes, a part of the body starts doing strange things. It starts to suck up energy from the surrounding area, making the area difficult to function fully. We don’t need to hate this part of the body, but we do want to focus on our ability to function fully and give our attention to the working parts, not the malfunctioning parts. This is how we “love” darkworkers.

But what about romantic love and relationship?

I think romantic relationship and family unions in the New World will be very different. I’m not against the idea of romantic love — it’s a beautiful form of love — but I do think the consequent idea of romantic relationship and the institution of marriage are abused badly.

Think for a moment. If the New World operates on the foundation of love:

• Do you need someone to assure your worthiness by being with you?
  Of course you don’t. You already love yourself as you are.
• Do you need someone to promise to be with you for the rest of your life?
  You don’t need to force love and security in such a way. Relationship is best when it is based on free will, at any given time. And forced love is not love, whether it is forced by yourself or by others.
• Do you need to form a secure haven called family?
  If the outside world is a savage cruel place, it makes sense to build a safe small haven, and this has been one of the major function of family. But if the New World is all about love, where is the danger?

So what is the role of romantic relationship and marriage in the New World? While we operate on the big love, it’s also good to form close connections so that we can get to know each other better and we can share ourselves readily. Romantic relationships can be one of those relationships, along with others like friendships.

We’ll loosen up a big time in forming and maintaining romantic relationships. You may have just one partner or multiple of them at any given time in your life. Your living arrangement can be flexible, too, beyond the traditional form of living with your family. If you enjoy being close to others, you may choose to live in something like a co-op that is formed on the basis of shared interest (say, similar eating or exercise habits, or artist co-op that shares studio space, etc). If you like traveling, you can do so. Or you may like solitary living arrangement. Whatever you choose, you are accepted and loved.

Sexuality in the New World

Romantic relationship and marriage are considered to be the only “correct” forms of sexual relationship at this time. So when we loosen up our idea of relationship, what happens? Do we become promiscuous?

First, it’s important to realize that your sexuality is yours. It’s not your partner’s nor of some authority in government or religion. You decide the when, with whom, how. This is especially important for women. Do not let the conventional “you are either a madonna or a whore” idea limit you.

Next let’s admit we get into the act for many reasons other than love and pleasure. Have you had sex with hidden agenda like:

• To prove you are (attractive, strong, worthy of attention, etc.)?
• To control your partner (to keep them to you, to get them do something, etc.)?
• To distract yourself (from boredom, loneliness, frustration at work, etc.)?

All these conditions will be worked out when we operate on the foundation of love. So sex with hidden agenda will go away.

Contrary to the promiscuous sex-overloaded society that some people may have thought when I said “New World based on love”, I think we may have a lot less sex in the New World. When you realize you are free to choose the type of sexual relationship, and you don’t need to bring in hidden agenda — when you choose to have sex just because you feel like it or to share some fun and pleasure with your partner — I think the demand would naturally decrease. Of course, it’s also quite fine if you are into providing joy big time.

How to bring in the New World

First, I want to emphasize it is totally counterproductive to think of the New World as how things SHOULD be. The should mentality, the expectation, automatically put it off to some unknown place in time and space. The time to start the New World is NOW.

Here are some things you can do today to bring in the New World:

1. Forgive yourself and others so that you can start anew. Forgiveness is a form of self love.

2. Live in gratitude. Gratitude is an expression of love. Don’t discuss how important gratitude is; say thank you to your loved ones, to things around you, to nature, to life.

3. Talk about the new way of life with your loved ones — your relationship partner, family, and friends. Embracing the possibility is the first step of actually living it.

4. Allow more and more love in your life. Do you do what you love to do? Do you talk to yourself with kindness even when things turn difficult? Do you spend time with people you really like? Do you express your love in a simple, straight-forward way without fear?

5. For each person you interact with, find some unique gifts they have and tell them how much you appreciate them. We can use a lot of assistance in realizing our beautiful qualities in us.

The “gift” doesn’t have to be some holy, noble, rare quality. For instance, a pretty smile is something we can treasure. (Do you realize how so many people, both men and women, would be delighted to hear how cute they are?)

6. Think more ways to cooperate rather than compete. If you are in business, are there ways you can work with others in the same or related fields that would benefit all involved? If you are studying something, can you also teach each other? Competition is based on scarcity and fear. Cooperation brings in more love and abundance.

7. Try something new. This requires self love and assurance, and in tern reinforces the same. And you will meet more people to love, learn more things to love.

8. Are there people in your neighborhood who would benefit from extra attention and care, such as older people, single parent with small children, etc? Why not strike up a casual conversation and let them know you are happy to help when they need something? You might be delighted to find how something small and easy to do for you can be appreciated so much. Offer your love and kindness freely.

Kids really belong to the “village” and we all want to be looking over them. Your community being safe and operating on love will expand to larger community.

9. When you go shopping, talk with the cashier. Treat the storekeepers like real people. Eventually, get to know them as your friend. Same with the bus drivers, the librarians, the customer service reps who answer your 800 calls, etc.

10. If you are in abusive relationship, whether it is romantic relationship or family situation or work related, please have the courage to leave. You are doing a disservice not just to yourself but to the whole by staying there. First, stop participating in their drama. This will likely make them more abusive in their attempt to get your energy, which will prompt you to leave finally.

11. Again, offer your loving words and actions freely. Let go of your agenda. Let’s talk, hug, kiss, and make love with no expectations but just because. Also, feel free to say no.

Love and the fifth dimension

Some people say the fifth dimension is love. I thought about this — length, width, height, time and . . . love?

What I think is there is no polarity in the fifth dimension. Everything is in alignment, and we call this love. In a sense, polarities have helped us learn our life lessons by providing contrast. But as we progress in Ascension and graduate from the school of life, we don’t need polarity any longer. We can just be. This is the ultimate destination we want to take our New World.

Does this mean we are going back to the original utopia like I described in that article? Not quite. I don’t think nature repeats exactly the same way. In the New World, we will be living in love similar to the original utopia but in a more conscious way.

Do you have more ideas to bring in the New World of love? What do you think of my vision of the New World? Let me know by leaving your comment ^_^  (Photo by carf)

The Law Of Attraction: How To Use It To Your Favor

The Law of Attraction has been attacked by many, including many personal development bloggers.  It looks to me that the easiest way to prove you are “smart” is to disagree with the Law of Attraction.  If that is what you want, you probably don’t need this article.  If you want to improve your life effortlessly, please read on.  (Photo by Trader Doc)

Misunderstanding the Law of Attraction

To understand misunderstanding, we first need to define the Law of Attraction.  For now, we will say “Like energy attracts like energy.” We will explore the deeper meaning of this law later.

There are a lot of misunderstanding going around about the Law of Attraction, discouraging people to use it to their favor.

1. Magnets don’t attract the same, they attracts the opposites.  So the theory of Law of Attraction is flawed.
One end of a magnet attracts the opposite end of another magnet so that as a whole, the magnetic energy flows through in one way.  Magnets attract magnets, not woods.  It is indeed attracting the like energy.

2. The Law of Attraction is not a law because it is not proven.  Plus the whole quantum physics stuff is BS.
Did the law of gravity become the law when Newton theorized it?  Or was it working from the beginning of time?

Regarding the quantum physics – what I gather from Greatness Without Genies: The Law of Attraction for Realists is that this area of physics is still in debate and neither proven nor defeated.  We just don’t know if the quantum physics is real, and if so, to what level of existence it applies, nor how it is related to the Law of Attraction.  So let’s give it a benefit of doubt.  (By the way, this eBook is an interesting read if you disliked the Secret.  Especially if you disliked the Secret but still feel the pull of the Law of Attraction )

3. The Law of Attraction doesn’t work because I couldn’t attract what I wanted.
Ah, but did you use it properly?  For example, if you wanted to be financially well, did you focus on abundance or did you focus on you being broke?  If it’s the latter, the Law of Attraction worked perfectly – you got more broke.  I feel for you, but don’t use your failure as a proof of the Law of Attraction not working.  It’s a case of operator error.

The final point leads to the point of how to use the Law of Attraction correctly.

Is it the thoughts or the feelings that attract?

Many Law of Attraction books tell you that your thoughts attract the very thing you think about, that thoughts become things.  Well, kind of.

Are you aware there are two kinds of thoughts?

1. Logical thoughts (or non-ego thoughts)
2. Ego thoughts

Typical example of logical thoughts is when you think about math.  How do you know the total sum of all inner angles of a triangle is 180 degrees?  There are several ways to prove this.

While you are thinking about triangles, parallel lines, or vector, you are thinking hard, but you don’t attract more triangles.  Because your feeling is neutral.  (I’m talking about pure mathematical thoughts, not your fear of failing the math test.)

On the other hand, we spend a lot of time and energy doing ego thoughts.  What will the economy be like?  Will I be able to keep my job?  Will I have to take a paycut?  Will I be able to afford the vacation this year?  And if I can’t, what would my friends think about me?  OMG, and . . .

Ego thoughts use tons of emotional energy.  And it’s usually negative thoughts based on fear.  And bam, don’t you know you get a layoff when you spend sufficient time and energy thinking this way?

The energy of emotions

When the Law of Attraction teachers say you attract the things you think about, they are talking about thoughts, or images, that are supported by plenty of feelings, the energy of emotions.  Thoughts are energies as well, but compared to the energies of emotions, thought energy alone is pretty small.

In order to use the Law of Attraction to your favor, you need to think in a way that causes you lots of positive feelings.  You can do this in both kinds of thinking.  One, you can manipulate your own ego thoughts to aim the things you want, rather than the things you don’t want.  For example, tons of money.  This way you can stimulate your greed and cause “positive” feelings of joy and excitement of having it.

This approach works, and some people have become quite good at it.  However, I don’t recommend it.  Because it can whack your sense of peace and harmony.  When you base your joy on greed, you need more and more things to satisfy your greed, and the state of just being happy with what you have become further and further away.  To me, this sounds like hell than heaven.  Having more and more, but never really satisfied.

So the better approach is to use your logical thinking and add feelings.  For the same objective to attract money, you think of money and what money can buy in that logical neutral way, for yourself and others, and then be inspired to have positive feelings such as joy and gratitude.

Better.  But isn’t there an even better way to utilize the energy of emotions?

The problem of thought-based feelings

There are two kinds of feelings:

1. Feelings that are caused by specific thoughts
2. Feelings that come from your core, unrelated to specific thoughts you may be having

We are familiar with the first kind of feelings, and this is also what the Law of Attraction advocates teach us to utilize.  They teach us to use emotions as a guide of your thoughts.  Thoughts on what you desire cause positive feelings.  Thoughts on what you don’t desire cause negative feelings.  Watch your feelings to monitor your thoughts.

When you do this, you notice your feelings are very unstable.  Having and not having something is like the sides of a coin and it can flip so easily.  One moment you are feeling great thinking about getting a raise – you are inflated in your emotions – the next moment, the thought of missing the raise crosses your mind and you are deflated miserably.  Up and down, up and down.  It takes lots of discipline to manage this process and disallow negative ideas to enter your mind.

And this is the biggest challenge those who try to use the Law of Attraction face even when they so believe in it.  They mix up thoughts and feelings, and the positive and negative energies negate each other.  Results: no clear results.

You’ve seen these people, or maybe you are one of them.  Are you afraid of thinking negative thoughts?  To the point you are afraid of using “bad words” like debt or loss?  When you try to direct your thoughts to “good” things you desire, you know (oh, damn you know!) there is a flip side.  The bigger your desire, the bigger your fear of not having it.

And if you are so afraid, of course, that is what you attract:  More fear and more situations that cause you fear.

Enough about playing between the polarities.

Emotions without thoughts

You don’t need thoughts to have feelings.

When I wake up after a good night sleep, I feel wonderful. I’m full of excitement and gratitude for the new day.  It’s not about being excited about specific things I plan to do.  These days, I hardly have any plans.  I have a natural routine and maybe I have some phone sessions scheduled, but my good feeling is not about these things.  It’s about being alive and another beautiful day.  Little me having another day!

When I sip coffee watching the trees and coffee, I feel wonderful. I’m filled with joy, wonderment, and contentment.  I’m not thinking about anything particular – I just like relaxing with coffee and looking at trees.

And what is this good feeling doing in my life?

My life is pretty good.  My business is growing, I have great friends, and I’m healthy.  Hmm.  I guess I could be happier with a boyfriend.  But then, there are hardly times I feel lonely.  So maybe I’m doing just fine.

So the most effective way to utilize the Law of Attraction, that is also the most effortless, is:
Cultivate the good feeling that comes from being yourself

Aaaagh, so simple. . .

The fundamental good feelings of life in the Law of Attraction

You may think it’s difficult to cultivate this fundamental good feelings about life and yourself.  However, once you have it, it’s pretty solid.  It’s not based on external conditions.  You realize that you are loved and supported in all ways, that you are special and valuable, and that the universe is a wonderful and friendly place to live and play.

From there, you live your life, and of course, you think.

So I live in good feelings majority of the time.  Then I occasionally think – let’s say thinking about my business.  Perhaps the most frequent thought is “Well, I enjoy doing the reading and clearing, and I know this is the foundation of my service, but this new coaching is so much fun I want to put more focus on this.  And I’d like to free up some time to do more writing, too.”  My business is developing exactly this way.

So thoughts have their place in the Law of Attraction.  But not necessarily a big place.  The majority of the energy is based on emotions, and thoughts only give directions to the energy.  And again, the easiest and surest way to have lots of good feelings is to base the feelings on who you are, not on external situations or your thoughts.

Cultivate the good feeling that comes from being yourself.  Then think some to direct the energy.

Where does action fit in the picture?

There are people who say something in the line of, “The Law of Attraction works because it promotes positive thinking that motivates people to take actions.  It’s not a spiritual law, and there is no mystery to it.  Now go do your work.”

And what kind of action are we talking about?  Actions that come naturally that you hardly think you are making “efforts” or actions that you toil and loathe?

The latter has indeed nothing to do with the Law of Attraction.  Do action A to cause result B.  Use whatever motivation to get to action, including positive thinking or “psyching up”.  Or a whip.  I mean, it’s the action that causes the result.  Motivation is not directly related to the result.

The kind of action we want to be aware of in using the Law of Attraction is the first kind.

Beings is not about sitting on a stone and doing nothing.  Being involves doing things you like and doing things that interest you. Watch small kids.  Being kids, they are almost always moving and doing things.  Jumping on the couch.  Swirling around the chair.  Running outside.  And when they find something interesting, they just go ahead and explore it.

The action that matter in the Law of Attraction may be doing the things that you so love to do always or taking special inspired action.   Or it may take no action.

Manifestations without action

You’ve never seen people attracting great life without no particular action?

My former hairdresser in Tennessee more than doubled her clients list overnight doing nothing.  She was leasing a booth in a small hair salon.  The owner was the other hairdresser and his wife.  They wanted a baby for a long time and finally decided to adopt one.  They were delighted to have a beautiful baby girl.  So happy to the point that first, the wife decided to stay at home full time.  So she split her customers to her husband and my hairdresser.  After a few months, and the baby growing ever so charming, the husband also decided to stay home.  They figured they could live on rent income alone for awhile.  So my hairdresser got his client list.

What did she do?  Just being a happy great hairdresser.  I always enjoyed visiting her salon because not only was she good at haircut but she was so fun to talk with.

Another example.  I know a retired school teacher who travels the world, going to some of the most secret spots.  No, she doesn’t have the money.  She got acquainted to a wealthy widow who loved to travel.  She asked my friend to accompany her because traveling alone is no fun.  The widow pays for everything.  My friend just carries her pocket money.  And both are happy.

What did she do?  I have no idea.  Being a teacher, I guess she has the basic interpersonal skills.  And she has time and willingness to travel.  The last time I talked with her, they were planning to visit Galapagos.

Summary:  How to use the Law of Attraction to your favor

1. Cultivate the good feeling that comes from being yourself.
   This is the first and paramount step.  The rest may or may not be necessary.
2. Think some to direct the energy.
3. Live your life doing what you love and what you are inspired to do.

You don’t have to think specific thoughts to use the Law of Attraction.  What you ultimately want to manifest is the good feelings, to feel even better in the coming reality you are creating, and you can just feel your way with our without specific thoughts.

When you do think, think it clearly but not necessarily specifically. Attachment to specifics is about your ego.  Envision the new reality you are creating and know it is there. It’s almost like taking it for granted, but with gratitude for it.  (Some people call this believing.  I don’t personally like the word believing because it implies there is a discrepancy between what you believe and what it is.)

Ego thoughts have little to do with this process.  As I wrote, our ego is brings in mostly fear, which is counterproductive in using the Law of Attraction to your favor.  Our ego also makes judgments and try to dictate the process and outcome of manifestation, which is again counterproductive.  Your ego only knows what you have experienced or heard so far, and it badly limits the boundless possibilities.

And with Ascension process going on, we are dropping the ego anyway.

Our power to create

That is the how.  Now the why.  Why does the Law of Attraction work?  I’ve seen many arguments why it doesn’t work, but not arguments why it does indeed work.

Because we are God.  Some express the same saying  we are children of God, or we are connected to the Source energy.  Really the same thing.  If we are children of God, we are growing up to be God.  If we are connected to the Source, we have the same energy the Source has.  And just like God created the universe, we can create our lives.  Smaller scale, but the same working of the energy.

I know it’s hard to accept we are God.  If it’s easy, we have absolutely no problem using the Law of Attraction.  Our awareness hasn’t grown up to that level yet, so at this time, it’s easier to think that something outside of us, be it genie, the universe, or God, would give us what we want.

However, I want to point out that the more we realize our own divine power to create, the better the Law of Attraction works. If your mindset is like “If I beg, God or genie may give me what I want.”, you are disempowering yourself.    So while it’s okay to believe in external power sources, please do start raising your awareness of your own creative power.

“The Law of Attraction” is a somewhat misleading term.  It is called so because on the energetic level, like energies attract like energies. It is NOT about the object of your desire getting attracted and coming closer and closer to you.  Nothing is really outside of you.  You are creating your reality. The Law of Attraction is really the way we create.

Extending Love In Business And Beyond

Happy New Year!

In this post, I’d like to show how you can deepen your new year resolutions from the superficial goals and to-do list level to the energetic level of who you want to be.  By doing this, you have better chance of achieving the goals you have in mind.  Further, if you have multiple resolutions and goals that may seem to be at conflict to one another partially, you will learn how to unify them at the deep level.

New year resolutions, old way

Well, not just new year resolutions, really.  We make resolutions year round because we have high hopes to improve our life and ourselves.

I was looking at my old vision board a few weeks ago.  Probably like yours, mine had a bunch of things I wanted.  Six figure income I want to make with my business.  Beautiful house to live in.  Mediterranean cruise vacation.  Time to nurture myself at a spa.  A great boyfriend. . . .

And I’d like to think I didn’t just put those inspiring pictures on the vision board.  I was resolved to take actions.  I started my business and did various marketing.  I started to make money.  I also made lots of friends online along the way by networking.

But there were problems.

1. I had so many things I wanted (success, money, time for myself, friendship, romance, etc. etc.) that I felt like I was trying to run in five directions at the same time.
2. So I felt like I had to choose one (or two, at most) of them to focus on even though they were all important to me.  This caused slight but undeniable resentment in me.  How can I ignore my own need to rest in order to achieve success in business?  Why do I have to sacrifice my social life to make money?  So many people seem to be doing it this way, but I couldn’t ignore my inner voice that something was wrong.
3. Further, the choice I was making for the one goal to focus on was not a very conscious one but was conditional.  See, if you are starting your own business, especially internet related business, it’s hard not to pay attention to what is going on with your business.  Everyone on the internet is shouting what you should be doing to promote your business, what the next new big thing is with the online marketing, and so on.  Even though I started my business thinking it’s okay to develop it in a slow and steady way, I was affected with all these screams and focused on business success rather than time for myself or for friendship.

The consequence of this approach?  If you are good, you achieve one of your goals.  Let’s hope that was something you genuinely desired.  If not, you are left out feeling like a failure. Not a wonderful scenario either way.

The energy flow under individual goals and resolutions.

Let’s keep using my case as an example and examine the goals at a deeper level.  What did I really want when I  wrote that $ mark on my vision board and started marketing my Akashic Record Reading service?  I wanted good things for myself, and I wanted to get them by doing good things to others.  It was about self love and service. In short, it was about love, in its big true meaning.

I didn’t want money for the sake of seeing big numbers on my bank account.  I didn’t want success for the sake of success.  And I didn’t want to exploit someone or trick my clients or anything in that line.  I want to make money by providing value, more value than the monetary value my clients pay me.  I want both me and my clients to be happy and prosperous.

Energetically, my goal was to align more fully with love and grow in love.  My business is a way I express my love to the world, and also a way I intend to care for myself.  Money is only one of the results that accompany this energy flow.

Now let’s look at my other goals as well.  Time for myself – it’s about self love again.  Friendship and romance – it’s about love in its various manifestations.  So all my goals were about love.

Despite the superficial conflicts in time management, all goals are really on one single flow of energy: love.

My new year resolutions, new way

This was quite an epiphany for me.  So with this new realization, I created a new vision board on Christmas Eve.  I was excited and when I completed it, it felt like I made the best Christmas wish ever.

My new vision board is about one goal: extending love.   It’s about extending love in many aspects of my life, to myself, to my clients, potential clients, my readers of this blog, my online friends, my local friends, and beyond.  It’s not about choosing business or social life. There is no such conflicts.  No one-or-the-other kind deprivation.  While my love may take different forms, it is all one love, and so my goal is well focused.  And I am the one who is consciously choosing this goal.

I didn’t put $ this time.  Not that I don’t want to make good money – I do.  But I feel that (and others like good health) will fall into place when I fully align with the big energy flow of love.

Every morning, I’ve been asking myself, “How can I extend love (through my work / daily life)?” When I am bothered with a problem, I ask myself, “How can I address this issue from the place of love?”  It seems to work.

How you can review and improve your new year resolutions

So my suggestion is to review your new year resolutions to dig deeper to the energetic level.  This is a good practice whether you have just one goal / resolution or many, like I did.  What do you really want?  What kind of energy does that goal signify to you?

For example, let’s say your goal was to lose weight and your resolution was to eat healthy and to exercise daily.    Is this about taking better care of yourself?  Then it’s about self love.  And if you also want to improve your relationships, there is no conflict – it’s also about love.  You don’t have to worry like “What would I do when my friends invite me for dinner?  Will I have to eat what they offer?  Would that break my diet? And . . .”  You can find solutions when you think from the point of love.

Or is it about creating the life you desire with your own power?  Perhaps you are tired of being a victim and you want to start doing things for yourself, and eating well and exercising are just ways to start doing so?  Then it’s about personal power.

There are many forms of energy, but in my practice, we talk about the five main energy flow in this Universe.  They are:

• Love
• Light (spiritual awareness)
• Truth
• Abundance
• Power

You may find it helpful to review your resolutions with these five energy flows in mind.  Of course, they are not mutually exclusive – rather, they work together to bring synergy.  In the beginning, however, you may find it easier to focus on one energy quality.

Our collective move to unity

As I often say, we are accelerating our spiritual growth these days.  I have heard people talk about moving beyond the level of polarity.  Polarity is about two opposing values, like good and bad, love and hate (or love and indifference), have and have-not.  Living in the energy of polarity is like riding the mental and emotional roller coaster of one extreme to another, and continuing this swinging ride.

In everyday life, this can be either-or thinking.  Do I choose success and no social life or non-success and loving relationship?  Do I make it or do I fail?

Stepping up beyond the level of polarity is new to most people.  For instance, the world of love, period.  Nothing that is not love exists in this world.  I have a vague idea what it’s like .  Perhaps my spirit is there but my physical and mental bodies are still caught up in this world of polarity that I’m so used to.  I’m picking up, however, that this is the direction we humans are evolving.

Your new year resolution can be a step forward to this collective movement to non-polarity / unity.  What one energy quality do you embrace this year?  How will you be totally in this energy flow to the point that you not being that energy is unthinkable?

Further reading:

Steve Pavlina just declared he is becoming polyamorous. Although this is not the direction I am choosing for myself at this time, I think it is a noteworthy evidence that we are moving toward non-polarity world.  Energetically, it’s about love, not about relative love that can be a choice of either-or. (Photo by serenithyme)