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		<title>How To Pray</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[The three part of an effective prayer and how to surrender the prayer to Divinity. ]]></description>
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Prayer is an effective way to communicate your intention to Divinity.  Unfortunately, however, some of us never learned how to pray, and some have been put off by the dogmatic approach of religion and are confused about prayers.  So here is the basic of how to pray.  <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/prakhar/1799998726/">(Photo credit</a>)</p>
<h3><strong>Format of a prayer</strong></h3>
<p>In <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401905730?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=siwomo-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=1401905730">The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Space, Miracles, and Belief</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=siwomo-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1401905730" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" />, Gregg Braden analyzes the three-part sandwich format of a prayer:</p>
<ol>
<li>Opening</li>
<li>Body</li>
<li>Closing</li>
</ol>
<p>He explains how prayer works as the command code in the matrix, just as a piece of computer code works in the computer software.  (For more about the nature of this matrix, you might want to read his <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/11/17/review-the-spontaneous-healing-of-belief-by-gregg-braden/">The Spontaneous Healing of Belief</a>, too.)</p>
<p>I know a few very basic codes.  For example, when I want to bold words in this blog, this is what I write:</p>
<p>&lt;strong&gt;the text I want to bold&lt;/strong&gt;</p>
<p>As you see, it has three parts:</p>
<ol>
<li>Opening: &lt;strong&gt;</li>
<li>Body</li>
<li>Closing: &lt;/strong&gt;</li>
</ol>
<p>The function of the opening is to signal the system that I am going to make a certain request. Then I state what it is in the body.  Finally, I mark where my body ends with the closing.</p>
<p>Prayer has the same format.  In the opening, I call to the Divinity to signal that I am going to make a certain request.  Then I state my request in the body.  Finally, I close my prayer to signal this is the end of my prayer.</p>
<h3><strong>Asking requires faith</strong></h3>
<p>Prayer is not just chatting with Divinity or <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/02/15/spirit-guides/">spirit guides</a>.  When we pray, we make requests.  And let me assure you there is nothing wrong about asking for what you sincerely desire.  In fact, the Universe is waiting for you to make requests.  (The key word here is &#8220;sincerely&#8221;.  I am not talking about satisfying every whim you feel when you go to the mall.)</p>
<p>Why doesn’t the Universe (or God or Matrix or whatever you want to call) just give you what you want? Is it too dump to figure out what you want?  Why do you have to bother and pray?</p>
<p>Because you have a free will and all positive beings respect free will.  God / angels / spirit guides are not going to shove you what they think is best for you.  It’s your responsibility to decide what you want and ask.</p>
<p>Asking requires at least some faith.  If you absolutely don’t think you can get what you want, you won’t bother to ask.  Even a very hungry little boy won’t ask for a candy if he absolutely knows there is no candy in the house and his family is so poor that there is no way his parents can buy him a candy.  Asking for something you know you won’t get is stupid and no one would do it.</p>
<p>So prayers &#8212; not the prayers you just say out of habit or sense of obligation, but the real prayers in which you ask for something &#8212; require faith, the belief that you would, or at least might, get it.  This is the beauty of prayers.  By praying, you reinforce your faith in a power greater than yourself.</p>
<h3><strong>Name of Divinity</strong></h3>
<p>So, a typical opening is the calling of Divinity.  If you are comfortable with the word “God”, you can use it here.  You can also use the name of God you believe in such as Jesus.</p>
<p>But what if you don’t like any organized religion and not comfortable with the word “God”? Can you still pray?  Definitely. Prayer is simply a request to higher power.  You can be creative in the way you call your Divinity. Here are some ideas:</p>
<ul>
<li>My higher power</li>
<li>Creator of all beings</li>
<li>Universe</li>
<li>Nature</li>
<li>Great spirit(s)</li>
<li>God of my understanding</li>
<li>Divine intelligence</li>
<li>Divine mother / father</li>
</ul>
<p>You can also call multiple names of Divinity, such as adding the names of saints you like.</p>
<h3><strong>The body of a prayer</strong></h3>
<p>Then you state your request, or your intention.  Make it clear, straightforward, and complete.  Don’t beg nor bargain.  Your prayer can be long, and you can take time “listening” to the response to your request before closing, or you can “hold” the intention for a period of time, but don’t nag.</p>
<p>Begging means you don’t really believe in the benevolent nature of God nor your own self-worth to have what you are asking for.  Perhaps you had to do that to get a candy from your parent, but God is a bit different from your parent.  Begging in the prayer defies the basic point of praying, that you have faith in the chance you will get what you want.  Same with bargaining &#8212; you don’t do that if you believe in the infinite wisdom and power of God.</p>
<p>Many people have problem communicating in a clear, straightforward and complete manner even with people, so I know this takes practice.   But it’s worth practicing.</p>
<h3><strong>Closing the prayer</strong></h3>
<p>Closing can be quite simple.  In my case, I say either something like, “I entrust this prayer to be answered in a way that is best for me and for all beings everywhere.” or simply, “Thank you. Amen.”  You can also repeat the name of Divinity before saying the gratitude.</p>
<h3><strong>Surrender</strong></h3>
<p>Then comes the challenging part.  You need to release the prayer.  In other words, you surrender.  You don’t hold your breath watching out when and how your prayer is answered, or even if it ever be answered.</p>
<p>Some prayers are answered immediately. Some takes time.  And some appear to be never answered. For instance, you may pray that your loved one survive a terminal illness and they may die after all.</p>
<p>I believe prayers work in a way that is best for all beings involved, not just for my personal (and often temporary) satisfaction. In the aforementioned example, perhaps it is time for your loved one to go.  Death is nothing to be ashamed of &#8212; it’s a transformation process.  Of course it’s sad because it is about separation, but maybe you have grown strong enough to go through this sad experience. So the request you made in the prayer is not granted, but if you are open, you would be comforted.  And years later, you may be surprised how the loss contributed to your spiritual growth.</p>
<p>We don’t always know what is best for us.  This is why we want to surrender our prayer to Divinity. You want to express what you desire, but you don’t want to control it.  God cannot work on your prayer if you keep holding onto it.</p>
<p>Do you pray?  Do you have any questions about prayers?  Please let me know in the comment.  Thank you.</p>
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		<title>Radical Gratitude: My Twitter Experiment</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Nov 2009 19:27:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>akemi</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[#RadicalGratitude: Say 100+ gratitude a day for 7 days to unleash the power of gratitude. ]]></description>
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<h3><strong>The missing key to the power of gratitude</strong></h3>
<p>How often do you say “Thank you”?  A few times a day?  Maybe ten times or so?  Or is it more like you cannot remember when was the last time you actually said it? <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/moonrising/435531234/">(Photo credit)</a></p>
<p>Much has been said about the power of gratitude. For instance, Dr. Robert Emmons maintains in his book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0618620192?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=siwomo-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0618620192">Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=siwomo-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0618620192" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> that practicing gratitude increases the sense of happiness by as much as 25%.  He also found that gratitude can boost social relationships, creativity, and immune system.</p>
<p>Gratitude is also a key to the effective use of the <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2008/06/13/gratitude-friday/">Law of Attraction</a>, or our power to create our lives.  We cannot create something new until we are grateful for what we already have.</p>
<p>On the other hand, there are people who say something like, “I’m grateful for all the things I have. I just wonder why I have so little even though I work so hard.”</p>
<p>What is going on?  Why gratitude works for some people and not for others?</p>
<p>The key is the quantity and quality of gratitude.  And in this case, quantity brings quality.</p>
<h3><strong>Radical Gratitude</strong></h3>
<p>Most people just don’t use the power of gratitude often enough. They reserve it for some special occasions, like when something notably good happens. Or, they say their gratitude routinely with a feeling of obligation, not with a true feeling of gratitude.</p>
<p>The remedy is to boost the quantity of gratitude to see its effects.</p>
<p>So I started the Radical Gratitude movement.  <strong>The idea is to say 100+ gratitude a day for seven days.</strong> Now this gets you going.  Of course, you can continue after the seven days, but I think you get the hang of it in seven days.</p>
<p>Don’t just think about gratitude and how important it is.  Say it aloud.  When you say it, 100 times a day, it starts to sink in your feelings.  You start to really feel the gratitude.  And <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/11/17/review-the-spontaneous-healing-of-belief-by-gregg-braden/">feeling is what matters in the process of creation</a>.  This is why I say quantity brings quality in this case.</p>
<p>As an experiment, I started this <a href="http://twitter.com/#search?q=%23RadicalGratitude">#RadicalGratitude</a> on Twitter on Sunday night.  I tweeted the idea along with some of the things, people, and events that I am grateful for.  Here is how the experiment is unfolding. . .</p>
<h3><strong>How #RadicalGratitude spread around</strong></h3>
<blockquote><p>Say it aloud, sing your gratitude. 100+ a day for a week. Take the #RadicalGratitude challenge. Your life will change.</p></blockquote>
<p>Within several minutes, <a href="http://twitter.com/lymanreed">@lymanreed</a>, whom I haven’t been talking with for over a year, tweeted back. <a href="http://twitter.com/hnuttall">@hnuttall</a> also tweeted, with a question:</p>
<blockquote><p>Do all 700+ things have to be different?</p></blockquote>
<p>No. You don’t have to keep track of your gratitude.  Just bump up the volume of your gratitude to 100 level. I mean, wouldn’t your spouse be thrilled to receive “Thank you” every morning and night?</p>
<p>Can’t think of 100+ things to be grateful for?  Here are some of the things I’m grateful for:</p>
<ul>
<li>My vision, hearing, sense of smell, taste, and feeling.  They bring me joy and pleasure.</li>
<li>My arms, legs, head, butts, breasts, tummy, hair, skin . . . my health and beauty.</li>
<li>Every food stuff in my fridge.  When I go grocery shopping, I thank each item I purchase. Apples, bananas, kale, spinach, sweet potatoes, almonds, water. . .</li>
<li>And the farmers, transportation, the people who work at the market, and the Earth.</li>
<li>The sun, the air, the trees, flowers, the stars, the moon, the universe.</li>
<li>The bills I need to pay &#8212; because I received the service and products.</li>
<li>When I drive, I say “Thank you,” at every green light. And at every red light &#8212; for safety.  And when I safely change lanes. (Oh, I remember <a href="http://twitter.com/rawliving">@rawliving</a>’s suggestion to send gratitude to cops. . .) I say thank you when I arrive at the destination, and I say thank you when I come home.</li>
<li>Money in the bank, my apartment, my car, each of my furniture.</li>
<li>Every book I’ve read and their authors.  Thanks to Gregg Braden, Bruce Lipton, Seth Godin, Deepak Chopra, Karen Bishop, Rumi, Lao Tsu, just to name a few.</li>
<li>My macbook, the internet, WP, twitter, facebook, that connects me with my friends all over the world</li>
</ul>
<p>My gratitude to the people in my life.  My mother, father, my friends.  Sometimes, it’s hard to express gratitude to people who are so familiar, but don’t be shy.  Tell each person how much they mean to you. Thank them for being the person they are.</p>
<p>Some more gratitudes:</p>
<ul>
<li>That I am in this country.  My greencard.</li>
<li>Artists who make the world so beautiful, including Picasso, Matisse, Modigliani, Rothko, Frankenthaler. . .</li>
<li>As I recall my life, I’m grateful to all the events &#8212; they all served as learning experiences.</li>
<li>I&#8217;m grateful for God, the Universe, the Nature, the Energy, whatever you call it, and my spirit guides.</li>
</ul>
<p><a href="http://twitter.com/JaySchryer">@JaySchryer</a> joined, mentioning his favorite music. He is also grateful for:</p>
<blockquote><p>Big dreams, and the courage to pursue them. Common sense and intelligence to make them a reality</p></blockquote>
<blockquote><p>Sense of humor to laugh at myself should I fail</p></blockquote>
<blockquote><p>Friends near and far who keep me sane, family who keeps me insane.</p></blockquote>
<p><a href="http://twitter.com/lance02">@lance02</a> <a href="http://twitter.com/thatgirlisfunny">@thatgirlisfunny</a> <a href="http://twitter.com/EvitaOchel">@EvitaOchel</a> also joined. I just love the ripple effects! I’m grateful.</p>
<p><a href="http://twitter.com/SuperSpiritGirl">@SuperSpiritGirl</a> says:</p>
<blockquote><p>Feeling grateful today for so many things&#8230; Even feeling grateful to feel grateful</p></blockquote>
<p>So true.  And the side benefit of this Radical Gratitude was that I found some cool tweeters who share the same kind of passion for life.</p>
<p>I suggest you include not just the things you like, but also the things you don’t (like the red lights).  Because they are all connected, like the sides of a coin.</p>
<h3><strong>The true power of gratitude</strong></h3>
<p>When I first did Radical Gratitude personally, I was just going through the motion in the beginning.  I thanked each dish, bowl, glass, and cutlery when I washed the dishes.  I thanked the toothbrush, toothpaste, dental floss and water when I brushed my teeth.  At mealtime, I put my hands together and said thanks three times.  I said gratitude when I woke up in the morning and I said gratitude when I tucked myself in bed at night.</p>
<p>This may sound like crazy, but because I live by myself, it didn’t matter.  I just kept saying “Thank you.”</p>
<p>Something changed.  It was when I was taking a shower and saying thank you to the abundant water that so readily came out of the faucet.  I got it.  It broke me into tears.</p>
<p>Everything in life is a miracle.  Every single thing, person, and event.</p>
<p>Gratitude heals.<br />
Gratitude humbles.<br />
Gratitude opens your eyes.</p>
<p>Happy Thanksgiving.  And remember, you can start gratitude any time.</p>
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		<title>Freeing Ourselves From Dualism</title>
		<link>http://yes-to-me.com/2009/11/15/dualism/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Nov 2009 23:20:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>akemi</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Darkness doesn't exist and so fighting against darkness is futile. Let's wake up from the illusion of dualism. ]]></description>
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Do you believe in dualism?  That there are two opposing powers in this world fighting against each other?  Such as light vs dark or good vs evil?</p>
<p>After writing about <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/11/10/darkworkers/">darkworkers</a>, I feel obliged to write about the issue of dualism.  Because darkness doesn’t really exist and understanding this is the key to freedom. <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/bethmeacham/52679594/">(Photo credit)</a></p>
<h3><strong>Fighting against darkness is futile</strong></h3>
<p>I understand the idea of light vs dark, or God vs Saturn, is thousands of years old in the Christian tradition.  Many other religions and cultures have similar concept of dualism.</p>
<p>It is so ingrained in our collective thinking that few people stop and think what darkness really is.</p>
<p>Can you show me darkness?  I mean, a substance that causes darkness?</p>
<p>You cannot.  Dark is simply the absence of light.  You can show me light, but darkness is always a matter of comparison.</p>
<p>So, then, what does it mean to fight against darkness?</p>
<p>It’s a fight against the shadows on the wall.  It may look huge and scary, but it’s only a shadow.  And naturally, no one &#8212; no superman, no super psychic, not even “the one” &#8212; can win in this battle.  Of course not.  It’s just a shadow, an illusion.</p>
<p>Perhaps I am confusing some people.  Didn’t I just write about darkworkers?  But if you go back and check that article, you notice that my definition of a darkworker, or negative soul, is the soul that is moving away from Light and therefore draining energy from other people.  Notice there is nothing about darkness in the definition.  And yes, at this time, such souls exist. But darkness doesn’t.</p>
<p>Darkness is something we make up in our mind. It is us who is giving life to the illusion of darkness, just like small kids give life to the shadow on the wall.</p>
<p>It’s time we notice this and wake up.</p>
<h3><strong>How to get out of the dualism</strong></h3>
<p>It’s actually quite simple.  Live in the here and now.  Accept everything in the here and now completely with no comparison.</p>
<p>When do you feel the push and pull battle of light and dark, or good and evil?  Let’s say you have an important exam tomorrow.  You feel you should study tonight &#8212; that’s the good, considerate thing to do, right?  On the other hand, you are tempted to go to a bar and just goof off.  Ah, your lazy, evil twin who gets you in trouble!  And what if you start thinking how you can cheat?  Now that’s really bad, right?</p>
<p>Do you see it’s your mind playing this game?  Your mind (or your ego) can go to a great length in this game.  Drawing from your past experiences, your mind casts a grim image of you failing the exam if you don’t prepare for it.  It also casts an image of success, which is just as hollow &#8212; it’s just expectation, not reality.</p>
<p>The reality is &#8212; you are.  Period.</p>
<p>Our souls don’t care if something is good or bad.  We came to this world to experience.  If we don’t like certain experience, that’s just that.  Next.  If we like certain experience, that’s just that, too.  Next.  No judgment.  They just are.</p>
<p>Seeing life this way may take a bit of getting used to until you get the hang of it.  But really, getting out of the dualism is fast and easy.  You just see things as they are with no mental chatter.</p>
<h3><strong>Reviewing dualities in your life</strong></h3>
<p>I encourage you to review what you have thought to be duality.  Are they real?  Or is one side of duality really non-existent, like darkness?</p>
<p>I think the only true dualities are the technical polarities, like positive and negative charge of electricity or cars moving either direction of the road.  In such cases, there is no value judgement.  Driving up north or down south are neither better nor worse by itself.  While the word “negative” may sound bad, negative charge of electricity is just that &#8212; it’s not good or bad.  Sometimes, negative is a good thing.  When your doctor runs a blood test to see if you are infected with a disease, a negative result is a good news.</p>
<h3><strong>Just one more thought on duality</strong></h3>
<p>When you examine your idea of duality, you may also notice that some so-called dualities are not opposite but more like pairs.</p>
<p>Men and women are good example of this case.  They have different sexual organs, supported by different sexual hormones and genes.  In the formation of a new life, they play different roles.  However, they are both humans and share a lot of qualities as humans.  Men and women are not opposite to each other that forms duality.  If they are, when a female manager replaces a male manager, it should cause 180 degree change effects to the organization, for instance.  Like putting a battery backwards.</p>
<p>We deal with this kind of fake dualities all the time.  Just because two groups of people or two ideas are very different doesn’t mean they are opposite and polarized.  Some examples are body and mind, thinking and feeling, rich and poor and meat eaters and vegetarians.</p>
<p>Obviously, there is no reason at all to fight over this kind of non-polarized fake dualities.</p>
<p>What kind of duality controls you?  Let me know in the comment <img src='http://yes-to-me.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>Darkworkers</title>
		<link>http://yes-to-me.com/2009/11/10/darkworkers/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2009 17:02:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>akemi</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How to tell a darkworker who drains your energy and how to deal with them. ]]></description>
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I really wish there are no such thing like darkworkers.  I really wish everyone, I mean EVERYONE, is evolving toward Light and I can hug (literally and energetically) everyone wholeheartedly with zero concern of my energetic flow.  I dream of such beautiful world.</p>
<p>We are not there yet.</p>
<p>It’s true all souls came from the same one Source, as I described in this article about <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/04/20/creating-the-new-world-light/">Light</a>.  At some point, however, some souls used their free will to go against (or away from) the Source.</p>
<p>I received some interesting comments to my recent article about <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2009/10/27/demystifying-starseeds-walk-ins-lightworkers/">Lightworkers</a> and would like to clarify some points further. <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/genista/5980203/in/set-172701">(Photo Credit)</a></p>
<h3><strong>The degree of light and darkness</strong></h3>
<p>So all souls are either evolving toward Light or de-evolving.  I call all evolving souls Lightworkers.</p>
<p>Now when you think of a vehicle on the road, the direction it’s moving is critical, but its speed also matters.  A Lightworker soul may be moving fast toward Light or they may be so troubled that they are hardly moving.  Or anywhere in between.</p>
<p>Likewise, I consider all de-evolving souls to be darkworkers, but there can be a terminology issue here.  There are souls that are moving away from the Source big time and there are souls that are slowly going backwards.  Some people may choose to call the first kind “darkworker” and not the latter.  As long as we are clear about the definition, both views are valid.  (I’m a linguist by training &#8212; definition is the foundation of any argument.)</p>
<p>So in my definition, darkworker or negative souls don’t always mean someone like Hitler.  My spirit guides tell me about 13% of the population is currently going against the natural energy flow, so they are everywhere.  Some lightworker souls are more prone to their attention and attack, but I don’t think anyone is free from them.</p>
<p>Which means it’s important to discern energy hackers in our lives.  (And toward the end of this article, you will learn why the tough love approach of detachment helps not only you but the darkworkers themselves.)</p>
<h3><strong>The best way to tell a darkworker</strong></h3>
<p>The best and only true way to tell if someone is a darkworker or not is to pay attention to your energy flow.  Darkworkers don’t receive vital life energy from the Source like Lightworkers do, and so they take the energy from the people around them.  (By “around”, I don’t necessarily mean physical proximity.  Space doesn’t matter energetically.)</p>
<p>So you would feel drained after talking with them.  Again, the degree of drainage depends &#8212; some steal big time and some more subtly.</p>
<p>Well, I know this description is vague.  You want a clear way to tell a darkworker so you can be sure what you are doing with them, right?</p>
<p>I’ve thought about this a long time, and I really cannot give you a “checklist” you can use to identify a darkworker.  You know, the kind of checklist or test that you answer with yes or no, add up the scores, and boom, you know the definitive result!</p>
<p>No, this matter of light / darkworker doesn’t go that way.  Because some signs are very subtle and confusing.  A troubled lightworker may appear like a darkworker.  (Having said this, I can share a few signs to help you . . . in just a moment.)</p>
<h3><strong>How the Akashic Records can help</strong></h3>
<p>If you are serious about finding the true soul-level identity of someone, please order a <a href="http://www.akashicrecordreading.com/followup/">Snapshot Reading</a>.  Snapshot Reading is the abbreviated reading of my comprehensive Akashic Record Reading that is focused on finding out the soul characteristics of someone, not about clearing the energetic issues for them.</p>
<p>If that someone is going to be a critical part of your life, like if you are considering to marry him or her or going into business with them, I think this is a wise investment.</p>
<p>And please note <strong><em>this is a follow up reading for those who have had the Akashic Record Reading for themselves</em></strong>.  I don’t see why anyone would want to dig up someone else’s soul truth before understanding themselves. (Well, negative souls would want to do that . . . but then, I don’t want to help negative souls take advantage of others.)</p>
<h3><strong>Signs of a darkworker</strong></h3>
<p>If you are the DIY soul, the first and most important thing to do is to pay attention to your energy flow.  Don’t be shy to admit you feel drained after spending time with someone.</p>
<p>And then, here are some “signs” that raises a flag.  Please keep in mind (I know I’m repeating myself here, but this is important) this is NOT a checklist.  A person may exhibit all these signs and may still be a lightworker.  I’m sharing these signs to help you be more sensitive to your energy flow, not to make you judgmental to others.</p>
<p><strong>1. He or she present themselves as smaller or bigger than life.</strong><br />
Darkworkers know they cannot present themselves simply as they are.  So they present themselves as someone who is (unfairly) victimized and who need help.  Or they may present themselves as a great wonderful person to be idolized.  (Remember Hitler was an idol for a while?)  Most darkworkers I know seem to think they are the most miserable unlucky person they know OR the most wonderful dedicated soul they know.</p>
<p>In both cases, they explain themselves very well. Whereas lightworkers live their life, darkworkers explain and negotiate their life.</p>
<p>Again, just because someone is in trouble or because someone is very negative in their speech or behavior patterns doesn’t mean they are negative souls.  Or just because someone is famous or working on a big project doesn’t mean they are negative souls.  So here is another sign, or indication, to guide you . . .</p>
<p><strong>2. He or she is constantly in the waves of dramas.</strong><br />
They always have a good explanation, but the bottom line is darkworkers are almost always in some kind of drama.  Positive souls don’t like staying in drama &#8212; they would try to help others in need, but sooner or later there comes a point that they step back because they are so drained energetically.  Negative souls, on the other hand, quietly thrive on dramas.</p>
<p>If someone seems to be just so wonderful at first glance, but somehow seems to be in drama all the time, don’t hesitate to listen to your gut feeling. “Wow, he won an award for the project he worked?  And now he works for that prestigious company. . . But wait, then why is he always short on money?  He said he got unlucky and got a traffic ticket. . . Hmm.  Wasn’t he talking about another trouble before &#8212; like his GF stole from him or something. . . I felt so bad for him. . .  I don’t know.  I just don’t like his company so much, but is it selfish of me to think this way?”</p>
<p>On the other hand, it’s very hard to distinguish negative souls who present themselves as troubled, victimized souls from lightworker souls who are troubled and victimized.  In a sense, they are indeed similar &#8212; they are stuck and hardly moving.</p>
<p>One of the subtle differences is that, with darkworker souls,</p>
<p><strong>3. You feel the help you offer gets sucked up in a void.</strong><br />
Darkworkers souls are weird.  I really don’t think I understand them well. When they come to my Akashic Record Reading, I do what I can do. They often have extremely uncomfortable energetic issues like ongoing soul shifting, which I can clear. And I hope the clearing helps them to return to Light. (Just to be clear &#8212; Hitler type don&#8217;t come to my practice.  They would NOT want their soul truth known even if I pay them.)</p>
<p>Well, the clearing is good, but my challenge comes when they ask how they can improve their lives.</p>
<p>So I point out their drama tendency and suggest they start building their lives with their own power, in a small manageable way.  And they say something like, “Oh, I know I give too much of myself to others.”  I might try again all over saying what it is to build their life with their own power rather than relying on other people’s power, and they go, “Oh, but that’s so hard.  Can you help me?”</p>
<p>I give up. I understand they have a right and free will to stay the way they are.  As a lightworker, I must respect free will.  My responsibility is to read the Akashic Records and clear the energetic issues.</p>
<h3><strong>How to deal with darkworkers</strong></h3>
<p>Again, the most important thing is to pay attention to your energy flow, or your gut feeling.  It may come as a hesitant pause like, “?  That just doesn’t make sense.” or “I don’t know why, but I just don’t like this feeling.”</p>
<p>Let me share another example to illustrate the case.  Let’s say you are new to meditation.  What would you do?  You might read some articles or book and try sitting at home.  You might join the local meditation circle or class.  You might try listening to guided meditation or meditation music.  All these are good approaches and I’m sure you choose the one that is best for your learning style.</p>
<p>A negative soul might sign up a 10 day meditation camp.</p>
<p>I’m not saying intensive meditation or such camps are no good.  But do you see how out of sync it is for a beginner to sign up such a course?  Sure, it’s impressive (think about the time and money investment!), which relates to the “bigger than life” characteristic of a negative soul.  And if they didn’t achieve enlightenment in that camp, then they become the victim in the drama.  They may say something like, “That meditation camp was a rip off.”</p>
<p>I don’t know what it’s like to be a negative soul because I’ve never been in their shoes.  I guess they have a very lopsided self image that pushes them to do this kind of thing.</p>
<p>I feel for that.  And I step back.</p>
<p>Yes, this is how lightworkers deal with darkworkers.  Step back.  Detach. Don’t try to change them.  God gave everyone free will, including the will to go against the Source.  Messing up with free will is by itself a dark act.</p>
<p>By stepping back and not offering your energy to them, you are providing them the chance to return to Light.  Darkworkers cannot exist without lightworkers offering their energy, knowingly or unknowingly.  So it’s more important to raise our awareness than “dealing with” darkworkers.  (Needless to say, in the case of crimes, call 911.)</p>
<p>Do you have questions or comments about darkworkers?  Please share in the comments.  Thank you.</p>
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It’s been a week since I moved to a little gem of a town called Eugene, Oregon.  The whole experience was, in a sense, more fundamentally moving than coming to the U.S.  I’m in cultural shock.  I’m humbled.  I’m amazed. . .   <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/23905174@N00/2786054512/">(Photo credit)</a></p>
<h3><strong>World migrant gets a surprise</strong></h3>
<p>Just to give you an idea, this is where I have lived in my life so far:</p>
<ul>
<li>Japan</li>
<li>Sydney, Australia (1 year as a high school exchange student)</li>
<li>Columbus, Ohio (10 years)</li>
<li>Nashville, Tennessee (3 years)</li>
<li>Portland, Oregon (2 years)</li>
</ul>
<p>The last three are all in the United States, but crossing the Mason-Dixon Line was like crossing an invisible cultural border between the North and the South (it is still referred to as the Union and the Confederate in the South.)  And west of the Rockies is quite another, too &#8212; I’m pretty sure the west coast states don’t consider themselves as part of the continental America. . . or as part of America at all.</p>
<p>So you would think, for a world migrant like Akemi, moving 100 miles to Eugene is a breeze.  Some physical work to do, but emotionally, it’s no big deal, right?</p>
<p>Boy, no way.</p>
<p>The first shock came when I first visited this apartment complex.  The leasing manager showed me a few open units.  I noticed she just simply open the door without the key, and when we were done, she just closed the door.  So I asked if she locked the open units at night and her answer was no.</p>
<p>You know, I’ve been <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2008/02/14/if-you-want-to-become-an-entrepreneur-be-with-entrepreneurs/">working since I was six years old</a>, and locking up the office and the storage unit was part of my responsibility.  Coming to the US, I was told to be even more watchful against potential crimes.  And here you are, meeting a middle-aged manager who seems to be quite conventional otherwise, never thinking twice of not locking the apartments.  She swears nothing ever happened, even when she had leased furniture inside for corporate relocation.</p>
<p>. . . well, I signed up and now live in one of her townhouse.  I still lock my door. . .</p>
<h3><strong>I asked for a quiet and peaceful place to live, and I got it</strong></h3>
<p>A little background of my moving.  I liked where I was, but it was so noisy with the neighbors on both sides and downstairs.  (I had an apartment on the top floor.)  My intent was to live in a quiet peaceful place where I can rest and work well.</p>
<p>Gee, did I get that.</p>
<p>I now live in a townhouse.  No one is above me or below me.  It seems to have been built well that I hardly hear my next door neighbors, either.</p>
<p>But it’s not just the lack of someone else’s music and loud conversation.  The quality of peacefulness here is beyond expectation.</p>
<p>I’m on a mid-hill on the southwest edge of Eugene.  From my living room, I can see the mountains across the valley above the roofs of other houses.  There are also some trees, and looking at their leaves quietly moving in the gentle breeze is so calming.  Behind all these, the sky is big and close.  I can spend the whole morning just looking at the trees, the mountains, and the sky.</p>
<p>Really, I can spend hours just being there.  I don’t know how to describe it.  I am left speechless.  I feel as if I am blending into the whole environment.  It’s better than bliss or happiness.  In bliss, there is still me.</p>
<h3><strong>Driving around the new town</strong></h3>
<p>Eugene is such a small town that I can get anywhere in 15 minutes or so (although I live at the edge of town).  No heavy traffic.  And the directions are so simple.  There are only a few roads I need to remember.  This is such a relief for me because I’m not very good at finding directions.  (By the way, the speed limit is 25 to 35 mph even on major roads.  Around schools, it’s 20 mph all day, from 7 am to 5 pm.  Why make haste, you know?)</p>
<p>Despite the small size, I find it easier to eat vegetarian (mostly vegan and raw) here.  Well, not just vegetarian, how about organic, locally-grown vegetarian?  There are some excellent grocery stores that carry stuffs I never saw in Portland.  And there are quite a few vegetarian-friendly restaurants.  I plan to go to the farmers’ market this weekend.</p>
<p>People are friendly here.  I went to the DMV (Department of Motor Vehicle) this morning.  Usually, people at government agencies like this have bad attitude.  Not here. The guy at the information desk is more friendly than any customer service person you met.</p>
<p>Honestly I get nervous a bit when I go to this kind of place.  Not that I did something wrong, but because of past experiences, I sort of expect unpleasant encounter at these places.  I was wrong.  I was treated well, and it took less than half an hour. . .</p>
<h3><strong>So?  Is there a problem?</strong></h3>
<p>Kind of.  Did you notice what I said in the previous paragraph?</p>
<p>I was expecting problems.  In reality, I didn’t get it.  And I found myself seeking something else.</p>
<p>What something?  Well, pretty much anything.  Something I can be concerned about, to be mentally prepared for, something I can bounce in my head and “work” on.</p>
<p>This surprised me.  I thought I’ve worked out my addiction to judgments and problems.  I know many of us actually like having problems regardless of what we may say, and that is the very reason why we never run out of problems.  We have a deep-rooted love and hate relationship with problems.  We are addicted to judgments and we keep creating problems by our judgments.</p>
<p>But me?  Am I still craving for problems?  I am in a beautiful, peaceful new place and enjoying it, right?  Or do I still have a tiny bit of discomfort with this level of peace?</p>
<p>This peace is almost numbing.  It’s like losing myself.  I know losing myself (my ego) is a good thing.  But it’s just . . . different.  Suddenly, there is hardly any problems out there, so now it’s either I completely accept this peace or I have to seek problems within me. Aaaaaaagh!</p>
<h3><strong>Creating our life and the world</strong></h3>
<p>We create our own life and the world.  Some people describe this “The world is our own mirror.”  Then I guess I must have done something good to create such a peaceful place to live for myself.  The remaining drama-loving ego gotta go.</p>
<p>I’ll see how this works.  And I really wonder why the rest of the world cannot be like this . . . there is no reason it cannot be.  When we all wake up and be done with our own addiction to judgements and problems, this world will be transformed to a “heaven on earth.”</p>
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