Yes to Me

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In 1995, I came to the US to rebuild my life. The more I think about it, the more I realize the similarity of this experience and that of becoming an entrepreneur.

If you are currently employed as a professional and dreaming to have your own business, the land of entrepreneurs probably look like a foreign country. You can see that entrepreneurs speak different language, they act differently, and you sense they think differently. You read a few guidebooks, which give you some ideas, but you are not sure if you are ready to make it there. Something, however, is very attractive about the land of entrepreneurs, and you start packing despite the nagging fear of the unknown. . .

Why did I leave the stability and comfort behind, once in Japan and then in Corporate America?

Unlike some immigrants, I had a good life back in my original country. I didn’t run from poverty nor persecution. In fact, I had far more luxury back then because my parents wanted to give to me. We went to Honk Kong to shop brand name dresses and dine like royalty. The analogy goes to the comfortable life as employee. When I had the day job, I was paid quite well, the banks loved my credit, and life was stable and comfortable. I had no problem putting foods on the table, and I could even get a mortgage to buy a house.

So why did I leave the comfort or even the luxury behind and dived into the unknown water? Crazy, huh? In a sense, yes. I wouldn’t recommend doing this if you are so completely against feeling miserable and vulnerable among strangers, overwhelmed with the amount of work you have to do to catch up and establish yourself in the new land, with all the risks known and unknown.

My parents thought I was out of my mind when I declared I was leaving for America. They thought I’d be robbed and killed. Honestly, I was afraid about it, too, in my mind. When I arrived, I quickly figured how hard it was to keep up with all the readings my college courses required. I thought I spoke pretty good English (and I did – I passed the test so I didn’t need to take any ESL courses) but it was not enough. When I spoke up in class, some people sneered at my accent. I was stressed out. The worst part was that, even when I was sick and found myself in a doctor’s office, I still had to speak in English. . .

I knew there was a higher purpose in life and had to seek it.

I wanted to become the person who I believed I could be. A stronger, wiser person. I felt I wasn’t really living if I just stayed in the superficial comfort. I wasn’t sure if I could make it, but I just had to try.

Two years after I came to the US, I graduated with honors and straight A (okay, with just one B from my first semester, in fact). The class listened when I had something to say. I had won the trust of many friends and faculties, which helped me to land a good job. Now I have far more American friends than Japanese friends.
My English is – well, I still have a bit accent, and maybe I make errors with singular and plural rules or the use of prepositions, but in spite of all these minor issues, I write as part of my business, and my readership is growing . . .

I again hit the point where I knew from within that I could be something more than the role I was playing in Corporate America. The best I could do there was to assist the president of the company. Although I knew I was as intelligent as any senior management (or better ^_^), I couldn’t get their positions because I didn’t have the specialized education and background. Then why not have a business of my own and utilize my generalist skills and deeper wisdom?

Coming to the land of entrepreneurs is just like coming to a foreign land. Some of the more established entrepreneurs may sneer at you, try to kick you off the competition, or even take advantage of you. Perhaps, however, your darkest time comes when you realize your limited sales ability. You realize you don’t speak the language of sales and business well enough, and the only way to make it is to learn it — quickly. When you keep going, there is hope . . .

The rewards that surpass my expectations

In both of my trials, once establishing my new life in America and again becoming an entrepreneur, I have found freedom, confidence, and renewed love of life. Moreover, I have found that living in a new land is not just scary and alienating. When I had the courage to reach out and ask for help, I was rewarded with great friends who have stimulated my growth. The realization that I am always connected in the big circle of life have strengthened my spirituality.

My American friends (or whoever or wherever you are), let me tell you, if I could come to America and rebuild my life from scratch, you sure can become an entrepreneur.

It’s a choice. If you are driven from within, believe in yourself and in the world. Your fear of the unknown is natural and understandable, but don’t let the fear run your life. The journey is tough, with lots of interesting and magical twists, and when you think you are just barely making it, you are actually making it real inside out.

What are the values you seek in life? How are you materializing them?

Special thanks to Barbara of Blogging WithOut A Blog for choosing this post and my blog for the NBOTW (New Blog Of The Week).

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As an immigrant, I can see what Americans take for granted.

I have lived in the US since 1995. I am fully aware of its problems. Yet, I think America is still one of the best places to succeed for someone who is ambitious and hard-working. The sad fact is that many Americans don’t realize it – they have lost the immigrant spirit, which was the spiritual foundation of the country, and just whine while sitting on their status-quo.

Let me tell you two major issues that I believe have been bending the mind of many Japanese for decades and thus have limited the economic growth there. See how you think America fares in these areas.

1. Discriminations that confine the growth of talents

Discrimination leads to systematic loss of good ideas and great talents. It judges the idea by the person who presents the idea rather than by the idea itself, and it judges the person by their attributes rather than by their expertise. I think it is quite amazing Japan has done well in the past despite deep-rooted discriminations such as . . .

Sexism
You must have a penis to be promoted in Japanese companies. I have been involved in the Japanese business community in the US for over a decade, and have dealt with several hundred Japanese businessmen (expats) either as service provider (I used to work for international banking department of a major bank) or as colleague, and never met a Japanese business woman sent directly from Japan. I recently read a news article that Nissan started promoting women – and that made a front page coverage in the business section of a US newspaper . . .

I heard there is an equivalent of affirmative action in Japan, but with no penalty. No penalty means it is just a decoration. Sexism at work is a common practice in Japan, and many Japanese women tolerate very low wage jobs because they can’t find other options.

Ageism
Age discrimination is not only present but in the written rules of many Japanese companies. There, people must retire at certain age. Many companies also limit the maximum age of new hires, viewing older applicants as “un-educatable.” People are put in age hierarchy, which limits free and expansive thinking and communication. In this rigid society, people age quickly – at age 25, I was repeatedly told I was too old to get a job or to get married. (I heard they recently raised the cut-off line to age 29. . . How nice.)

Racism
Many Japanese insist there are no racism in Japan because it is a homogeneous society. Nothing is farther than the truth. First, Japan is not “homogeneous.” There are Ainus in Hokkaido, and people in Okinawa consider themselves as different from the mainland Japanese – for good cultural reasons. There are also tens of thousands of Chinese and Koreans living in Japan. By ignoring them, many Japanese render themselves to the worst form of discrimination.

Further, many Japanese (secretly) subscribe to old racism. I have worked for three Japanese-invested companies in the US, and never saw a black American in senior management. Beside the Japanese expats, all senior management were white men, with one white woman among them. (One female representative is considered necessary to avoid the accusation of sexism.)

2. Social myths (tatemae) that only gives disillusion and distrust to those who know the reality (hon-ne)

You’ve heard lots of good things about Japan. Well, many are not true. But if you ask a Japanese about it, he or she would probably say it is true – because they know they are supposed to endorse it. They do know the reality is far from what is advertised, but have no way to express their concerns outside their inner circle. This split mentality causes confusion. Over time, people lose enthusiasm even for really good cause – they’ve been disappointed with the discrepancies of promoted good cause and the reality just too often. It’s an anti-thesis of Pavlof’s dog. When disappointed too often, they may shun away even at the sight of a real treat.

Some well promoted myths are . . .

Good school system
Japanese score well in many tests. But the real contributor to the high scores is the cram school, not the regular school. Japanese kids (I mean elementary school kids) work until 9 pm at cram schools. They have no energy left by the time they enter adulthood, no interest in real learning, and no creativity.

Low divorce rate
It is low for a reason. Did I say getting a reasonable job is hard for women in Japan? Especially for older women (read: women over the age of 30)? For them, divorce means freedom in poverty. Add to that the social shame still associated with divorce. The image of marriage in Japan is one-way ticket to mystery house – no exit whatever you find there.

Good health
Japanese do live long. Many older folks are bed-ridden for years, but yes, they are kept alive.

I am concerned about western researches that report things like “Japanese (or Asian) women don’t suffer from menopause.” Do they realize that those women are under social pressure NOT to discuss physical discomfort? When I was working for a Japanese-invested company, I once made a mistake and complained about my shoulder pain. The Japanese sales VP snared at me and said, “That’s menopause . . . oops, I’m not supposed to say this in America, huh?” It’s been years now and I still have my period very regularly, so obviously it was not menopause. The point is that women are conditioned not to discuss physical issues – if they do, they go under the storm of social ridicule. (My example is really nothing compared to what goes on back in Japan.)

Oh, I love America!

I am still a woman, no younger than I was when I was in Japan, with yellow golden skin and a bit of accent, and none of these stopped me from getting great jobs, and I can even start my own business! I can say what I believe to be true, and because I have kept my honesty and integrity, I feel passionate about the causes I believe in! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Red on to my story of coming to America . . . and how it is so like becoming an entrepreneur . . . here.

Thanks to Jeremy at Struck in Traffic for including this post in American Economics Carnival.

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