Extending Love In Business And Beyond

Happy New Year!

In this post, I’d like to show how you can deepen your new year resolutions from the superficial goals and to-do list level to the energetic level of who you want to be.  By doing this, you have better chance of achieving the goals you have in mind.  Further, if you have multiple resolutions and goals that may seem to be at conflict to one another partially, you will learn how to unify them at the deep level.

New year resolutions, old way

Well, not just new year resolutions, really.  We make resolutions year round because we have high hopes to improve our life and ourselves.

I was looking at my old vision board a few weeks ago.  Probably like yours, mine had a bunch of things I wanted.  Six figure income I want to make with my business.  Beautiful house to live in.  Mediterranean cruise vacation.  Time to nurture myself at a spa.  A great boyfriend. . . .

And I’d like to think I didn’t just put those inspiring pictures on the vision board.  I was resolved to take actions.  I started my business and did various marketing.  I started to make money.  I also made lots of friends online along the way by networking.

But there were problems.

1. I had so many things I wanted (success, money, time for myself, friendship, romance, etc. etc.) that I felt like I was trying to run in five directions at the same time.
2. So I felt like I had to choose one (or two, at most) of them to focus on even though they were all important to me.  This caused slight but undeniable resentment in me.  How can I ignore my own need to rest in order to achieve success in business?  Why do I have to sacrifice my social life to make money?  So many people seem to be doing it this way, but I couldn’t ignore my inner voice that something was wrong.
3. Further, the choice I was making for the one goal to focus on was not a very conscious one but was conditional.  See, if you are starting your own business, especially internet related business, it’s hard not to pay attention to what is going on with your business.  Everyone on the internet is shouting what you should be doing to promote your business, what the next new big thing is with the online marketing, and so on.  Even though I started my business thinking it’s okay to develop it in a slow and steady way, I was affected with all these screams and focused on business success rather than time for myself or for friendship.

The consequence of this approach?  If you are good, you achieve one of your goals.  Let’s hope that was something you genuinely desired.  If not, you are left out feeling like a failure. Not a wonderful scenario either way.

The energy flow under individual goals and resolutions.

Let’s keep using my case as an example and examine the goals at a deeper level.  What did I really want when I  wrote that $ mark on my vision board and started marketing my Akashic Record Reading service?  I wanted good things for myself, and I wanted to get them by doing good things to others.  It was about self love and service. In short, it was about love, in its big true meaning.

I didn’t want money for the sake of seeing big numbers on my bank account.  I didn’t want success for the sake of success.  And I didn’t want to exploit someone or trick my clients or anything in that line.  I want to make money by providing value, more value than the monetary value my clients pay me.  I want both me and my clients to be happy and prosperous.

Energetically, my goal was to align more fully with love and grow in love.  My business is a way I express my love to the world, and also a way I intend to care for myself.  Money is only one of the results that accompany this energy flow.

Now let’s look at my other goals as well.  Time for myself – it’s about self love again.  Friendship and romance – it’s about love in its various manifestations.  So all my goals were about love.

Despite the superficial conflicts in time management, all goals are really on one single flow of energy: love.

My new year resolutions, new way

This was quite an epiphany for me.  So with this new realization, I created a new vision board on Christmas Eve.  I was excited and when I completed it, it felt like I made the best Christmas wish ever.

My new vision board is about one goal: extending love.   It’s about extending love in many aspects of my life, to myself, to my clients, potential clients, my readers of this blog, my online friends, my local friends, and beyond.  It’s not about choosing business or social life. There is no such conflicts.  No one-or-the-other kind deprivation.  While my love may take different forms, it is all one love, and so my goal is well focused.  And I am the one who is consciously choosing this goal.

I didn’t put $ this time.  Not that I don’t want to make good money – I do.  But I feel that (and others like good health) will fall into place when I fully align with the big energy flow of love.

Every morning, I’ve been asking myself, “How can I extend love (through my work / daily life)?” When I am bothered with a problem, I ask myself, “How can I address this issue from the place of love?”  It seems to work.

How you can review and improve your new year resolutions

So my suggestion is to review your new year resolutions to dig deeper to the energetic level.  This is a good practice whether you have just one goal / resolution or many, like I did.  What do you really want?  What kind of energy does that goal signify to you?

For example, let’s say your goal was to lose weight and your resolution was to eat healthy and to exercise daily.    Is this about taking better care of yourself?  Then it’s about self love.  And if you also want to improve your relationships, there is no conflict – it’s also about love.  You don’t have to worry like “What would I do when my friends invite me for dinner?  Will I have to eat what they offer?  Would that break my diet? And . . .”  You can find solutions when you think from the point of love.

Or is it about creating the life you desire with your own power?  Perhaps you are tired of being a victim and you want to start doing things for yourself, and eating well and exercising are just ways to start doing so?  Then it’s about personal power.

There are many forms of energy, but in my practice, we talk about the five main energy flow in this Universe.  They are:

• Love
• Light (spiritual awareness)
• Truth
• Abundance
• Power

You may find it helpful to review your resolutions with these five energy flows in mind.  Of course, they are not mutually exclusive – rather, they work together to bring synergy.  In the beginning, however, you may find it easier to focus on one energy quality.

Our collective move to unity

As I often say, we are accelerating our spiritual growth these days.  I have heard people talk about moving beyond the level of polarity.  Polarity is about two opposing values, like good and bad, love and hate (or love and indifference), have and have-not.  Living in the energy of polarity is like riding the mental and emotional roller coaster of one extreme to another, and continuing this swinging ride.

In everyday life, this can be either-or thinking.  Do I choose success and no social life or non-success and loving relationship?  Do I make it or do I fail?

Stepping up beyond the level of polarity is new to most people.  For instance, the world of love, period.  Nothing that is not love exists in this world.  I have a vague idea what it’s like .  Perhaps my spirit is there but my physical and mental bodies are still caught up in this world of polarity that I’m so used to.  I’m picking up, however, that this is the direction we humans are evolving.

Your new year resolution can be a step forward to this collective movement to non-polarity / unity.  What one energy quality do you embrace this year?  How will you be totally in this energy flow to the point that you not being that energy is unthinkable?

Further reading:

Steve Pavlina just declared he is becoming polyamorous. Although this is not the direction I am choosing for myself at this time, I think it is a noteworthy evidence that we are moving toward non-polarity world.  Energetically, it’s about love, not about relative love that can be a choice of either-or. (Photo by serenithyme)

The X Factor of Entrepreneurship

(Photo by Max xx)

How luck, or synchronicity, came into my life today

Happy Easter, my readers. I understand Easter is a celebration of renewed life. For me, it is a beautiful time in spring to appreciate the gift of life and review if I am living it fully.

What we do is a big part of our lives. I have been thinking a lot recently about my coaching business and its marketing. Some of you may have noticed that I changed the tagline of this blog from “For Tomorrow’s Successful Entrepreneurs” to “Life Purpose, Passion, and Entrepreneurship” I’m clarifying my niche – in other words, I am redefining my target market and my message. And this is a scary process because choosing something is about letting go of others. After tons of brainstorming, I thought I could really use a little guidance . . .

My guidance came unexpectedly. After I visited my CPA’s office this morning, I stopped at Powell’s Books nearby. There was a book-signing event going on – an old man was talking to a bunch of people. I listened to him for a while and liked his non-arrogant way of talking, so I took a seat, still not knowing who he was. He was talking about how we are all spiritual and how the invisible power works behind the scene. It was Neale Donald Walsch promoting his new book, Happier Than God: Turn Ordinary Life into an Extraordinary Experience. I was surprised how down-to-earth he was – he wasn’t like a crazy bygod at some religious institutions at all. He was even funny!

BE who you intend to be whatever you are DOING

During the Q&A, he told us how he started to do what he does now. At that time, he was very frustrated because he wanted to be wisdom, to work as the wise-man helping people, but he didn’t seem to get there. In layman’s terms, I guess he was unemployed. That night, he was asked what he needed to DO right now, and he answered he had to do some grocery shopping. Then he was told, “Then go to the grocery store.” Neale responded with frustration, “You don’t understand. That is not what I want to do.” “You can BE what you intend to be whatever you are doing. Be the wise-man you want to be while doing the grocery shopping.”

So he went to Safeway. There he saw a woman with a baby cart. The kid was picking grapes while the mother walked off to pick up things from the shelf. When she saw what the kid was doing. she hit the kid’s hand, and the kid started to cry. So Neale walked up to the woman and quietly said to her, “You don’t need to do that to your child.” She got upset at him and yelled at him it was none of his business, blah blah blah. He again told her she didn’t need to do that to her child, in his wise quiet voice. Again, she bombarded him with her stories – how her husband lost his job that week, how tough things are for her, etc. Third time, Neale talked to her, and she started sobbing, asking him who he was. “Are you a minister of some kind?” By the time, a crowd was forming around them and listening what he had to say. By BEING what he intended to be, a spiritual worker, he became one, although what he went out to DO, a grocery shopping, had nothing to do with it.

What does this story have to do with my or your businesses?

On one level, the message is straightforward. We need to BE first before we DO it, BE it whatever we are DOING. If you want to become an entrepreneur, be an entrepreneur whatever you are doing now. Think as entrepreneur even when you are doing employee work.

When we do this, the X Factor of life kicks in. Coincidences start to happen. Like Neale walking into the situation where he could exhibit his wisdom. Or me walking into his book-signing and hearing what I needed to hear. This is the second takeaway of the story.

We are spiritual beings, and spirituality works in business as well.

We have the tendency to think of business in a superficial way. We tend to see only the doing part of entrepreneurship. I think this is quite an ineffective way of thinking. DOING it right is of course important, but there is this hidden working in entrepreneurship, the BEING part.

So I think my blog is about BEING a successful entrepreneur, the inner mechanics of thinking and feeling as a successful entrepreneur so that we can act as one. Maybe I just lost a group of readers who are only interested in the How-To’s, and honestly that saddens me. I am also excited about this niche. There are a lot of good teachers and their blogs about the doings of entrepreneurship, and there are also a lot of great personal development and spiritual growth blogs, but I don’t know many writers who effectively connect the two points. Jonathan Fields occasionally writes about it (like this post), but that’s about all I know. This is still a pioneer field.

From experience, I know that synchronicity starts working when I embrace my spirituality.

In fact, my next post is about another synchronicity I had this past week and the great motivational speaker I had the honor to interview. Stay tuned.

Do you see synchronicity working in your life and in your business?