Comments on: Dodging The Many Forms Of Psychological Manipulation http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/ Lightworkers' Empowerment & Ascension Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:11:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rog http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/comment-page-1/#comment-10103 Rog Sun, 21 Feb 2010 06:25:48 +0000 http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/#comment-10103 Thanks for the post, this type of manipulation can go hand in hand with extreme passive agressive behaviour. The two mixed together are absolutely lethal and you end up with someone who is continuosly depressed and on some hard medication. I have a housemate who was a friend but is now just a right pain in the backside. I am in the process of moving and all the manipulation manouveurs are in play as I type this. The agression, the praise, the "like nothing happened" the obscene behaviour and language, the control, the "what the use living", the "I do this and I do and I get nothing for it" that has drawn a sicken line to me. Even drugs and psychiatrists are having absollutely no effect on him. The manipulators are stagnant going nowhere with their lives humans who beat on go getters, fear facing successful people like myself. I have peace and harmony and I love myself and the people who I have a high regard for. Thanksagain Thanks for the post, this type of manipulation can go hand in hand with extreme passive agressive behaviour. The two mixed together are absolutely lethal and you end up with someone who is continuosly depressed and on some hard medication. I have a housemate who was a friend but is now just a right pain in the backside. I am in the process of moving and all the manipulation manouveurs are in play as I type this. The agression, the praise, the “like nothing happened” the obscene behaviour and language, the control, the “what the use living”, the “I do this and I do and I get nothing for it” that has drawn a sicken line to me. Even drugs and psychiatrists are having absollutely no effect on him. The manipulators are stagnant going nowhere with their lives humans who beat on go getters, fear facing successful people like myself. I have peace and harmony and I love myself and the people who I have a high regard for. Thanksagain

]]> By: Creating and Delivering Value as Lightworker | Real Life Spirituality http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/comment-page-1/#comment-10052 Creating and Delivering Value as Lightworker | Real Life Spirituality Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:30:32 +0000 http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/#comment-10052 [...] others to overcome their fear, or an article that educates others how to recognize the BS of manipulation, you are bringing lightworker [...] [...] others to overcome their fear, or an article that educates others how to recognize the BS of manipulation, you are bringing lightworker [...]

]]> By: Jc http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/comment-page-1/#comment-7785 Jc Wed, 30 Dec 2009 13:35:34 +0000 http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/#comment-7785 My Mother is a genius manipulator. Once I caught on to her game and figured out what she was doing other mainipulators are easy to spot and pale by comparision. I tried for years to get my mother's approval and finally accepted that I was never going to get it either. I also accepted that she is a very selfish person and that I needed to be my own person and not be validated by her or any other person. Here is how I deal with manipulators. 1. Recognize manipulation 2. accept your own feelings, you have a right to feel any way that you do about something. 3. don't over intellectualize someone's behaviour and make up excuses for their inappropriate behaviour. Trust your feelings. 4. are you putting more into the ralationship with the othe person than you are getting back? If you are then isn't good. Here are my rules 1. Just because someone loves you doesn't mean you have to love them back. It might be hurtful to them but don't feel guilty about it if you want to break off a relationship. You can tell the person you are sorry that they feel the way they do and you just don't feel the same. You don't want to be dating a person that has completely fallen in love with you and you only stay with that out of pity or guilt. The next thing you know it will years later and you find out that person has been playing you like a fiddle. 2. No one has the right to judge you even yourself. 3. forgive others if you can. if you can't you may be able to in time but don't blame yourself for how you feel. You have a right to your feelings. after a lifetime of my mother's manipulation I broke free. I completely severed all ties to her and feel no guilt or remorse. I also forgave her. If she carries any anger or hatred of me or any emotion she will have to deal with that herself. My Mother is a genius manipulator. Once I caught on to her game and figured out what she was doing other mainipulators are easy to spot and pale by comparision. I tried for years to get my mother’s approval and finally accepted that I was never going to get it either. I also accepted that she is a very selfish person and that I needed to be my own person and not be validated by her or any other person. Here is how I deal with manipulators.
1. Recognize manipulation
2. accept your own feelings, you have a right to feel any way that you do about something.
3. don’t over intellectualize someone’s behaviour and make up excuses for their inappropriate behaviour. Trust your feelings.
4. are you putting more into the ralationship with the othe person than you are getting back? If you are then isn’t good.
Here are my rules
1. Just because someone loves you doesn’t mean you have to love them back. It might be hurtful to them but don’t feel guilty about it if you want to break off a relationship. You can tell the person you are sorry that they feel the way they do and you just don’t feel the same. You don’t want to be dating a person that has completely fallen in love with you and you only stay with that out of pity or guilt. The next thing you know it will years later and you find out that person has been playing you like a fiddle.
2. No one has the right to judge you even yourself.
3. forgive others if you can. if you can’t you may be able to in time but don’t blame yourself for how you feel. You have a right to your feelings.
after a lifetime of my mother’s manipulation I broke free. I completely severed all ties to her and feel no guilt or remorse. I also forgave her. If she carries any anger or hatred of me or any emotion she will have to deal with that herself.

]]> By: SZ Philosophy | MFU » Blog Archive » Emotional Manipulation http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/comment-page-1/#comment-3959 SZ Philosophy | MFU » Blog Archive » Emotional Manipulation Sun, 16 Aug 2009 18:15:32 +0000 http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/#comment-3959 [...] Recommend online readings : Manipulation in Relationships – And How To Deal With It Dodging The Many Forms Of Psychological Manipulation [...] [...] Recommend online readings : Manipulation in Relationships – And How To Deal With It Dodging The Many Forms Of Psychological Manipulation [...]

]]> By: Joe http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/comment-page-1/#comment-3361 Joe Tue, 24 Mar 2009 13:01:01 +0000 http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/#comment-3361 Hi Joanne Geib, My name is Joe and I'm soon to take my license to become a doctor in general medicine. I have gone through a lot of the same things you have gone through. That's why my heart goes out for you. You seem to have felt the same pain that I have felt before and it's like living in pure hell. I believe that counseling with a psychologist will help you. I also believe that taking antidepressants (Zoloft/Sertraline) would be good for you right now. Exercise is something very important if you are able to do it, but if not because your depression is removing all of your energy from you, then I'll wait until the depression helps. Don't think that antidepressants are going to be your crutches for the rest of your life; use them as crutches only temporarily (short time) until you can get back to another position where you'll like to be. The side effects are very minimal. Once again, I'm sorry about not being able to trust anyone anymore; I know how that feel. PS: Akemi and everyone else's ideas are awesome!!!!! Sincerely, Joe Hi Joanne Geib,
My name is Joe and I’m soon to take my license to become a doctor in general medicine. I have gone through a lot of the same things you have gone through. That’s why my heart goes out for you. You seem to have felt the same pain that I have felt before and it’s like living in pure hell. I believe that counseling with a psychologist will help you. I also believe that taking antidepressants (Zoloft/Sertraline) would be good for you right now. Exercise is something very important if you are able to do it, but if not because your depression is removing all of your energy from you, then I’ll wait until the depression helps. Don’t think that antidepressants are going to be your crutches for the rest of your life; use them as crutches only temporarily (short time) until you can get back to another position where you’ll like to be. The side effects are very minimal. Once again, I’m sorry about not being able to trust anyone anymore; I know how that feel. PS: Akemi and everyone else’s ideas are awesome!!!!!

Sincerely,

Joe

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